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I just turned 27 and there are two ASD guys I know, one is 19 and one is 20. Neither one have had a girlfriend. I told one he was cute and he said "I don't know how to respond to that", but we were messaging on Facebook casually, lot of really short answers from him. Haven't heard from him since.

The other doesn't use Facebook, I saw him last year at the autism walk but didn't say anything. I've been messaging his mum and she introduced us at this year's walk but we shook hands and that was it.

Yesterday my friend had a birthday party and he was there we had a great time, he is really touchy and had his arm around me a lot and I enjoyed it. He mentioned getting together sometime. So then his mum was talking about having people to their cottage, I had hoped for something more.. you know, one on one.

He is supposed to come to our social group this week, he's never come to it before because he lives further away..

I am paranoid about being so much older.. plus I am divorced.

tread carefully and know what you are getting yourself into.

I don't think it's such a big deal.

7 years isn't HUGE but it's getting up there.

I would be more concerned, as it sounds like your going to be starting from scratch with this guy.

My very best friend is really close to my age and is a "cougar". She's middle age and dates guys in their 20s. She's a widow with two school age kids. She also was on drugs and went through a lot after her husband died, but she's straightened out a lot now. She's very pretty and very popular with guys. In fact, some of my kids friends have dated her.

You aren't that much older than the guys you were talking about. While it may seem like a lot now, in a few years it won't be. If you like them and want to go out with them, I'd say go for it. Give it a try and see how you both feel about it. Discuss it with them up front and get it out of the way so there's no worries.

I'm one of those ladies who just couldn't do that though. Mainly because they would be the same age as one of my kids, which to me is just gross. You are much younger than me, so that shouldn't be a problem for you at all. The other night a guy came on to me that I have known since he was 10. He's 20 now. Very nice looking boy, always been very sweet. It freaked me out so bad I was upset really, really bad. It actually made me angry because I had always felt I was seen as the "Mom type" rather than the "cougar type" like my friend. I've had younger guys come on to me before, and as nice as they are to look at, I just don't think I could do it.

There's a huge difference in mine and your ages though, so while you are still close to their age, go for it.

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His mum set us up on FaceTime today and he showed me their cottage and I told him he looked nice... That was about it. His mum is going away but when she comes back, they're having a party at their cottage and we talked about me going, hopefully I don't work the day they have it, and then talked about an amusement park, and we want to see some of the same movies. His mum just might have to help us arrange things. He doesn't Facebook or anything. It's a relief she's so supportive and open minded though.