I wish I had a girlfriend

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I'm 18 years old, and have had a few relationships that have ended badly. No chance of being friend's or if I remained friend's with them it was really awkward.

I have yet to find a happy relationship. My NT sister has a boyfriend and the two of them are always hanging out :/ I get so jealous when I see them together. I know most people say "you're young, wait a few years" or "good things happen to those who wait" but truth is I'm sick of those cliches.

Does anyone feel this way? That they want a girlfriend, yet have severe limitations. For example, there are no clubs that I'm interested in in the community such as a reading or a writing group. Most of them are sports related :/ Second, I go to a special school for people with Autism and the girl's there are either way to young, or on the other end of the spectrum.

It took me a while to get a boyfriend and I was pretty lonely for most of my high school and college years. I determined that the problem was that there were very few men in my local area who interested me. Moreover, my reclusive tendencies made it difficult to meet new people (which was generally a stressful and unpleasant experience). However, I eventually found a guy who I quite like on a dating site. It was just much easier to find compatible people online and not having to interact in person helped me to overcome my shyness about initiating contact.

I feel for ya, dude. Those cliches are being said one too many times every time. I'll be honest with you, although I hope to have a boyfriend this year (nothing at all like the one I had last year...ugh) I also have my doubts I could ever be happy like my BBBFF (big brother best friend forever) who's married. I mean, like a lot of people, I want to be happily married and raise my own family someday. True, 18 means we're still young, but it most certainly doesn't mean we're too young to date. I can relate to you about envying your sister, I love my BBBFF and his wife, but I envy them too. I don't like envying others.

I feel ya too. I tried to go out with 56 different women, but failed horribly. Both in reality and on dating sites. (most of them were on dating sites)

It just seems like that the time for us to have a relationship is not ready for us. Regardless of how we talk and how we look.

Here is a quote from me.

"Sometimes we all want to be the crying baby who gets candy. But we don't realize that we already have the candy or are about to have candy."

I made that up a couple of days ago.

The crying baby is suppose to symbolize someone who gets everything it wants and what we don't realize is that we are about to get what we want or already have what we want. Now why does it relate to you and me? Because we will find love one day with someone who we want to have love with. Sure we may not be able to get love in the beginning of our lives and we keep on wishing we want it, but it will happen.