question for friendzone guys

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guys if your being friendzone by a girl,then why don't you
just find a new girl.if your frustarated by being friendzone,then
why don't you just end the quasi-relationship.

It's like playing the lotto. When you buy a scratchoff, 3/4 times at least you are going to lose. But sometimes you win. Sometimes you win a lot, an enormous sum, say, a few thousand or millions of dollars. So you play anyway even though the odds are stacked against you, because you want the prize so much.

That's the logic, I believe. Some people do in fact end up in relationships from the "friend zone." You probably have interacted with someone that's had that happen. However your odds of getting a relationship that way are really really low.

So, yeah. You're just gambling for a prize you likely won't win.

If you are friend-zoned by a girl you can use that to meet other girls, her friends. You immediately overcome the "creep" hurdle with these other girls by being a friend of a friend.

Stop with the friendzone crap! Guys who use the term friendzone just because a girl won't get with them aren't really a girl's friend. If anything, they are being deceptive and creepy.

That's how it works in friendships, but not in the friend zone; I distinguish between the two. A male-female friendship is just like a same-sex friendship, except the two people use different locker rooms when they go to a swimming pool, and unlike two guys, they can dance together. A friend zone is when the girl gets all the advantages of having a boyfriend (someone to confide into emotionally, car repairs, occasional free dinners, etc.), but doesn't have to do anything in return (sexual intimacy). The guy gets less than he would get from a traditional friendship: he can't talk about guy topics, he always has to put his best foot forward, etc. A friendship is mutual; the friend zone is one-sided.

So, a girl who's keeping a guy in the friend zone (as opposed to being his friend) has more to gain from not introducing him to her friends than from doing so. After all, if gets into a relationship, she'll lose the emotional venting target (a.k.a. "tampon"), the car repairs, and the occasional free dinners. Plus, more often than not, she doesn't respect him enough to let her friends get to know him (e.g. "he's too nice for my friends to date him"). What you're saying is true for a friendship, but not for the friend zone.

Don't listen to him, Bill! We need more threads that dare to ask the tough questions!
Keep fighting the good fight!

That is exactly what I've done!

Oddly enough, the girls who had "friendzoned" me often increased their interest in me after I had found someone else.

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Because I valued the friendship but unfortunately the friendship had gotten changed from what it 1ce was or what I thought it 1ce was. Maybe it's my strong sense of loyalty, hopefulness/delusionalness

i wish this were a rhetorical question but so many guys do stick with a girl as a third wheel hoping some day they'll make it out of the friend zone.

I have been friend zoned plenty of times, and you know what, it's even hard for me to maintain those kind of relationships

umm.. friend-zoned means you were not in a relationship.

Ending the friendship should be reserved for serious cases only honestly. Like when the girl knows you really like her and she knows she isn't interested in you... and yet plays the GF to get stuff from you and drags it out until the time comes she realizes she wont get anything else until she gives you a concrete answer on whether or not she will be your GF...and then she says no (but she'd love to keep getting stuff from you). Such ninja wenches need to be tossed away from your friends list as far, far as possible.

This is why you're in the friend zone.
To be honest, neither party is exactly honest with their intent. If you go into a friendship in vein that it will become something more without actually being honest with them, it's your own fault if you get played by a better player than you.

friend zone is mostly crap.

It is not that it doesn't exist, it does.

But the reason it does, is because the guy is deep down passive aggressive and resentful, and the girl just doesn't want the hassle of telling him she doesn't want to be serious friends, because he his holding on the the chance of getting with her.

Personally I favour those that give a hash and direct rejection, but quite frankly you can't expect every personalty of girl to do that. Given the guy doesn't have the balls to accept it, why should the woman have the balls?

But yes in short you should move on if you aren't interested in genuine friendship.

BTW friendzone works both whats it is not just women, and those that do aren't looking to 'zone', they are looking for the person to get over themselves.

You have to also consider what options they have got. They either:

1. try to ignore the unwanted attention, and hope it goes away
2. try to change the nature of the relationship (i.e. 'friendzone')
3. harshly and abrupt reject
4. try to let them down gently at the risk of them not getting it.
5. try to get them to loose interest, by changing appearance, personality, talking about other love interest.

I honestly have not been "friend zoned" many times.

It's not that I'm an especially good looking dude or whatever, I'm not, and I haven't dated or hooked up with a ton of girls or something, I just generally don't give a s**t and am turned too inward for me to be useful to anyone in that context.

The one time that kills me though was a friend of mine from grad school, a burning hot Latvian chick, everyone bailed out on dinner plans one night except for me, and I went to dinner with her simply because she called me upset that everyone else ducked out.

That was the advance context, and should have been perceived as such, but when I agreed to go I was crippled stoned and tilted out by basically everything in the restaurant. She clearly thought that I was bent out of shape because I was nervous being out with her. That wasn't the case, but still FRIEND ZONE on the spot.

Sucked. I had an outside legitimate chance with her, and it was instantly torched because I went out under questionable circumstances just to be nice. Man that girl was banging, it was a pretty rough way to lose out on the potential.