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Marlene1
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10 Oct 2013, 2:05 pm

The question of "forever alone" bothers us NTs too, so don't worry. I am an NT girl, 22, who was involved in lots of relationships with very typical NT boys, and now I am in love with an aspie guy who is far more interesting and honest man than anyone I've ever met.

But I will not lie, not many NT girls will gave the patience to deal with Asperger traits in their partners.
Then again, dealing with problems in communication caused by Asperger with a partner you care about and he/she cares about you (which takes a lot of energy) is far less of a problem than dealing with the usual NT jerks that REALLY don't care.

Work on yourself, goes for anyone. My aspie made a huge progress in socializing, but it took time.



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10 Oct 2013, 2:37 pm

newageretrohippie wrote:
closest I've ever had to a date is the Gold Saucer part of Final Fantasy VII


:lmao: Was it Barrett? :P



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10 Oct 2013, 3:16 pm

It would be wiser to start after a couple of years to get into the dating world - not necessarily too serious or at the expense of your studies, but there was a questionnaire thread done here on WP and I've noticed a pattern among the males: Those who had dates at teen ages are the ones who are the most successful in getting partners later in their adulthood (of whatever type), those who had 0 as teen always remained 0 or 1 partner.

Experience is important.

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10 Oct 2013, 3:25 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
It would be wiser to start after a couple of years to get into the dating world - not necessarily too serious or at the expense of your studies, but there was a questionnaire thread done here on WP and I've noticed a pattern among the males: Those who had dates at teen ages are the ones who are the most successful in getting partners later in their adulthood (of whatever type), those who had 0 as teen always remained 0 or 1 partner.

Experience is important.

Or it's just because those who are unattractive during their teens are likely to remain unattractive.

Having had one partner doesn't seem like a problem to me. My uncle met his wife when he was 16 or something like that. Now he's in his 50's and they're still married.



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10 Oct 2013, 3:46 pm

You're only 14. The very fact that you are pondering these questions puts you years ahead of where I was at your age. If you can get over your defeatest attitude and grow a bit of self-esteem you should do fine.



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10 Oct 2013, 4:11 pm

Don't know why people even want to get a girl before they are emotionally mature anyways. 20 is still young.
Why worry kid, you've yet to become a man.


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10 Oct 2013, 4:15 pm

yellowtamarin sums up my feelings on the matter.
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10 Oct 2013, 4:18 pm

octobertiger wrote:
newageretrohippie wrote:
closest I've ever had to a date is the Gold Saucer part of Final Fantasy VII


:lmao: Was it Barrett? :P



lol no, I always get either Tifa or Aerith ( got Yuffie all of once ) but I did watch my bro get Barret once and it was hilarious!

At least I've been happily married in every Harvest Moon game I played :)


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10 Oct 2013, 4:25 pm

Well there you go, so you have had some success. You fibber, you! :P



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11 Oct 2013, 9:56 am

Thank you all. You have all really helped me. I have begun to get over this attitude and gain some more self-esteem and confidence.



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11 Oct 2013, 12:17 pm

I don't think you have anything to worry about.

If you put in a lot of effort, I'm sure you'll have success. . .


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