specialguy wrote:
What seems to work when setting two people up - tell the female that she is being set up - never tell the guy.
Often the guy will blow it, lol.
But when both people know it's a "set up", there is just more pressure on the situation than there needs to be. Such has been my experience anyway.
I can think of two occasions seeing a perfectly nice girl in tears because I didn't do whatever I was supposed to do if I was normal when girlfriends of friends have tried to set me up with someone.
Of course now I know enough about myself to run in the opposite direction from such an occurrence.
Even though Iam 54 Women still think they can sort me out with someone, just last month this Women at work was aghast to discover I was unattached, within the space of 24 hours shes telling me shes found someone for me whos 42 and will meet me in Central Lobby on Monday, "Will I be around then?"
Fortunately I had booked that week off and haven't bumped into the Matchmaker since, Iam hoping they would have both forgotten by now.
Its bad enough I don't know what Iam supposed to do even with somebody I find attractive, it horrifies me the thought of being set up with somebody I find repulsive, what do you do then in a way that wouldn't hurt somebodies feelings?
Right. And that's exactly the reason your friend should not notify you - it can be horrific pressure when a guy "knows" he is being "matched up".
18 Oct 2013, 9:50 pm
