I HATE socialising

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Because all people wanna talk about is their partners and friends and what they do and I get JEALOUS because I don't have that. I know I have to socialize to get it but all that happens is I have to listen to how great other people's life's are and it never feels like I'm making progress personally.

What do?

It's because I am an obsessive. I never chose to be but I am. So how do I deal with it?

I'm not sure I have any real advice, but I can sympathise. I often feel like I can't really participate in their conversations because I am in a different circumstance from them and I feel like I don't belong.

I was talking to someone today about how sometimes we can perceive that someone else is in happy circumstances and their lives are working out, but we don't really know the whole story. Often their lives aren't as rosy as we think they are.

Jealousy pushes people away. Although I accept that it is difficult to see people seemingly fall into easy social situations, relationship and friendships without making any effort when people like us are facing a constant battle to fit in and make our lives work and jealousy is probably a natural consequence, I would find a way to counteract it and find positive aspects of your friends to focus on. Maybe you could meet up one on one for a coffee and that way you are sort of on the same footing.

I don't know what else to say, sorry.

thanks

I get a lot of people who talk over me to unload their woes, especially online. Want to trade?

Jealousy can be pretty common. How old are you? If you're in your early to mid teens, then this could be a life stage you might grow out of.

My recommendation is don't create a Facebook account and if you already have one, don't use it as often. The reason I say this is because Facebook can make people jealous. Someone might post a picture of themselves at a party with a bunch of their friends and get 50 likes. And then you post a picture of yourself with your dog and you only get 1 like from your mom. Facebook can make you jealous and depressed, trust me I would know.

yes it was even in the news over here that Facebook has a negative effect on people's well-being.

But come on, it was obviously designed to upset people. Zuckerburg is quite a despicable character and Facebook was borne out of a project Zuckerburg started to basically bully people on his campus. He is a sociopath, conceited, and a greedy bastard. He makes his Facebook website to bring us down to his level. I really do hate him.

and as icing on the cake, everything you do goes straight into an NSA database.