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This very gorgeous man has started talking to me on facebook. We have mutual friends. He likes the same stuff I like, and he asks questions and says that I'm beautiful and have pretty eyes. I really don't want to f**k it up. I get very anxious about this sort of stuff. I think about it all the time, whether I'm saying or doing the wrong thing. Whether he's going to just randomly quit talking to me and leave me constantly wondering why? Note: I have no real reason to suspect him of ceasing communication. Does anyone have suggestions for how to deal with "dating" and getting to know people? I haven't dated someone in a LONG time..... HELP.

What should I do?
What should I not do?

1) Arrange to meet him as soon as possible
2) If you don't know what to talk to him about, ask him about himself -- this is a free pass for a bloke to talk about himself as much as he likes, and it may be informative to you
3) Don't get drunk and f**k on the first date

Good luck, I'm sure you'll be fine.

But I should allow him to make the suggestion of meeting?

Tell him that you have really enjoyed your conversations and that you like him. Then ask if he is interested in a romantic relationship with you.

Start saying nice things back, flirt, and try to handle the attention you get gracefully (accept compliments). Better yet, relax, calm the f down and enjoy it. Make your interest known, and etc as above by others.

They should probably at least meet in real life before they decide to start a relationship.

what if he lives far far away? Is it not possible to have a relationship that's mostly electronic [perfectly autistic relationship]?

Q What should I do?
A Be cool
Q What should I not do?
B Be uncool

If you do meet up remember this is very useful and true!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ArOGoSxIbFk[/youtube]

I used to never understand the reason why people would say, be yourself.

This is what it means to me, currently.

• Get to know yourself
• Understand yourself, what kind of personality do you have? What are your needs?
• If you are holding back, you are not being yourself.
• If they go away, at least you were yourself and it would have ended anyway.
• There are people out there that is compatible with you. It is possible to identify them after you understand yourself.
• You are not going to make everyone happy and that is ok.
• If they try to change you, then they don't understand you, first understand yourself to build confidence.

It's going to be difficult to tell you what you should do when you don't know what you want...
So relax and enjoy the ride, if you feel uncomfortable, bail, but try to learn about yourself in the process.

The thing I get the most confused about though is the deciding whether the guy should make the moves or the girl. But if I don't interact enough then he'll think I'm not interested. For instance I read in a book that the girl should end the conversations at first, to show that she has a life and such. Like she's not desperate. So, I send the last text last night and he hasn't texted me since then. Should I now just wait for him to text me back? I am afraid of appearing clingy or desperate because that's what I've done at the beginning of other romantic-interest situations.

Instead of asking him out suggest a place that you "haven't" (i.e. lie if you must) been to that your "friend" was raving about and ask him if he's been there. Drop him hints the size of billboards.

Long-distance relationships are possible, but they're a very big investment for people who've known each other on Facebook for a short time. Plane tickets and all...

A purely electronic relationship sure wouldn't be perfect for me.

It would not be perfect for me either. It would make me paranoid honestly.