Do Aspies ever have "gentle endings" with partners

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Just curious it things ever end on civil terms, without large explosions?

Things just not working out between two people, no villains, no heroes, just two people who found out they had fundamental things going on that blocked them from being together?

Or is anger and bad feeling a necessary part of the process of saying goodbye to another?

Civil terms every time for me.

And often a continued friendship.

I didn't with my 1st girlfriend because we were having lots of fights because we both had our issues. I did with my 2nd girlfriend because she realized that she was better off without any relationship at the time because she was an Aspie who liked her independence & having her space & my personality is opposite of typical Aspie's withing a relationship because I'm dependent & clingy. Our relationship had been kind of one-sided for awhile partly because our personalities & our life circumstances.

Why? You get bored of them? Never into long term?

Why civil?

I think you mean why did we break up? Various reasons. Never boredom. I guess we "found out we had fundamental things going on that blocked us from being together".

I've had a couple of long-term relationships. One is still a very close friend.

Yes, it was on breaking up.
Because ending it in civil manner and keeping them as friends gives the impression there was never a major conflict that terminated the relationship. Unless by civil manner you mean no shooting or no fist fight lol.

Haha I mean how the OP described, no large explosions. Not even small explosions. Just a "this isn't working" conversation, generally.

Didn't have amicable breakups til I was older. But yes, it's possible.

Yeah of course.

Only time I don't speak to ex's is if they were really messing with the super important stuff (abuse, are truly an a**hole, etc).

The ones who weren't like that there were no explosions or fights at the end, everything was civil and I'm still friends with them. Very good friends with one in particular actually.

Only one person I talk to out of all the people I date, but rather infrequently. That actually didn't end well either. We just somehow ended up on speaking terms a couple weeks later.

I ended things well with one person, but we don't speak. The only time I heard from her was through a random Facebook message that sounded like a flirt to me. I responded two days later and got "sorry, I have to go, hope to chat some other time." I haven't replied and haven't heard from her either. Something about this made me feel as if she needed an ego boost.

Nawwwww.

I am not stalking you. We live in different cities, remember?

I see, Kjas and Yellow were dating.

insert aussie joke about how wrong planet is turning into Tasmania.

The process might not have fireworks, but feelings of anger can still be there.
I don't think most relationships, aspie or not, end in such a way that no one's hurt.

Do aspies have the same affinity to kangaroos as they are said to have with dogs?

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