Does It Really Get Better?

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Now I am sorry if I sound like a sore ass, but life has been frustrating as of late. I have told my mom of my dating woes somewhat, and she said it will ge better. But will it really? I slave away in my 20s , get to my 30s, and basically the dating pool is single mothers or wha tnot. Now I understand sometimes life happens, but cmon. I act all responsible and such and sacrifice now, but for what? So I can support some Alpha's baby? I am sorry, but then what was the whole point of me suffering for? Why must I suffer now and then pick up someone else responsibility?

You're assuming there is only 1 probably outcome and you're dooming yourself to it. No one knows what the future holds in a broader sense.

I won't fill you with false optimism. Thing's can get better, but it's not a guarantee. Has something happened recently that has made you feel doubtful?

Welcome to the cruel world.

I will promise you that it will get better in some way. It may not be exactly what you want. There will probably just be some new thing to worry about. Will you still get pain, hell yeah. But remember pain makes you stronger. Hard pill to swallow. But we are all in this together for better or worse. We all think that one situation that eludes us will solve everything but it usually does not. And a woman will not solve anyone's problems really. Once you have it seems like nothing anymore. not trying to worry you. I thought once i had my first relationship I would finally be happy or some nonsense. Nothing really changed kind of like when its your birthday. It just feels like another day.

It is all about changing a negative into a positive.

You will find a woman that does not have kids and it will be great. I say that to be optimistic. Believe it and its more likely to happen. All that sacrifice will pay off in the end in some way. I mean I am sure there are some women your age who don't have kids. I found at least one but it didn't work out sadly. She was 33 if i remember correctly. The last relationship I had she had a son. I wasn't about to be his daddy he already had one and he is in his life still. Although they are no longer together: my ex-girlfriend and the father. And I don't think she would expect me to everything seemed like it was working fine. I mean of course if I ever married her and she asked me I would of helped out.

I mean I guess you need to be careful of the women that have kids without a father because you probably will end up with responsibility. If you really do not like the prospect then keep searching. You have no idea where or when she will arrive if ever.

We all seem to be going through hard times right now. Myself included. Why must I suffer? I ask that question frequently but pretty much everyone else says the same thing sometimes. You can't make sense of it no matter how hard you try. There is some semblance of luck with relationships. It does not work on logic or make much sense. And it usually doesn't seem fair that some have it easier. But there is no way to know what problems these people have that you don't have. The grass is always greener on the other side.

What makes you too good to support someone else's child??

Edit - sorry if I didn't make it obvious - I mean, the reason it is not getting better is because of you coming across like someone who thinks they are too good for everyone else .

I wish you all the best, nonetheless.


Final edit: to remove needlessly inflammatory content. (I went and re-read the Forum rules, didn't I)

Last edited by leafplant on 29 Oct 2013, 6:35 pm, edited 2 times in total.

edited. I guess you want play like OctoberTiger does. I know it is not even about me. But nonetheless. In fact you are probably worse.

How selfish of all these women, impregnating themselves so callously, just so you can carry the can. They must get together and plot such things...okay you might be under a bit of pressure, but are you serious?

You're right, there is no point in suffering. None.

Um. So, ok, what makes you so important that you feel you have to get offended on someone else's behalf? (I know you will realise in about 30min you have over reacted again - but you just proved my point about the sense of entitlement causing nothing but suffering)

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! Not again!! !

it wont get better if you sit on your ass all day on the computer and don't try to improve yourself such as your personality, talents etc...


doing these things won't gurantee you'll get a gf but you can't win the lottery if you don't play. Listen to this epic speech to get inspired.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P-wOKrD_nRE[/youtube]

He does have a point why should he suffer for the choice of someone else. The bottom line is how many of these women are looking for some reason to get some guy to pay for something they should be taking care of themselves. And worst of all the deadbeat father who just abandons them. This story is always the same. Some women who has no decency to not sleep around and chooses to f**k some half-wit idiot who cannot keep a leash on it. Its your child, you need to take responsibility. Or what you cannot go out and party and snort coke like you want to.

I mean how many times is this true? I would say more than a few.

Thought you could get rid of me, huh? I hope I haunt your dreams.

You need a really big hug.

Enough with the attention-seeking behavior.

Yeah, always the same. But when I try to describe my parents in that way, I am told I am a bad person. Make of that what you will..

I am about the only person who didn't jump all over this guy with snarling sarcasm. Aspies just do not have a filter it is why we get banished to some island by NTs. We're all in exile. Everyone thinks we're weird, strange, creepy.

Half of us want to just fight everything. And the rest act like someone's dad. "You need to stop whining" like I joined the army or something. Wow, I think drill sargeants are tamer than people on here.

The fact is no one on here is working with a full deck. There is all kinds of confusion on here. Misinterpretations. I think I should have stayed away from here. This was the worst idea I have had in three days.

No pride and integrity anymore. My generation stinks. I am just saying men my age today (mainly NTS) are only concerned with how many women they have been with like that makes them special or something. No, you have no values and no morals. Your generation is pointless.

The fact is some so-called men are just boys. They never grew up. They don't know the meaning of sacrifice or good values. No one respects their life and is only after money, power, and sex. America is just a wasteland. A shell of what it used to be.

Anyways i gave up on humanity a long time ago. It is a lost cause.