I played a mind game on my gf.

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She was complaining about everything I was doing lately. It was starting to really wear me down, so I told her that since she has to complain so much about me, that maybe it means that a breakup should happen. She got upset, said she was sorry, and told me I was the best boyfriend she's ever had.

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So later we went to the beach to make up, and now everything is fine.

Careful - you can only play that card so many times with most emotionally-stable people.

The fact that you call this 'mind games' - well, hmm.

What if she agreed with you and ended it right there and then?

You don't have to mention the break-up word to redirect and refocus the relationship onto things that are 'fun'. Beware short-term gain that causes long-term damage.

Yeah, my ex husband used to pull this kind of stunt with me. The last time he tried it, I told him he was right. It wasn't working and we should get a divorce. Turned out he hadn't actually contacted a divorce lawyer, as he'd said he had, but by that time I had.

Mind games are for f**ckwits.

The more important issue, what was she complaining about to get to this?

Mind games are for cowards, plain and simple. I should know; I used to be one.

Good job.

Ditto on this. Eventually, you will have to find out the root cause of the issues at hand and see what can be done to work on them or even fix them.

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As others have pointed out you cant do this forever and you should really consider taking some of her criticism into account before she actually breaks up with you.

Its the one area of dating I have some "recent"experience with so I know a thing or two about this

If someone tried that on me, I'd just turn round and walk out.

I think it's called emotional blackmail, or something like that.

Did you deliberately choose a girlfriend who seemed easy to manipulate, or did it just turn out that way ?

I've had people try that sh*t on me, and my response was (and will continue to be) "Great idea. We should break up."

I agree with this. I can understand being frustrated by constant nagging and getting to the point of throwing your hands up in frustration, but I've also been in the girlfriend's shoes. Even if all the complaining is of trivial things, there's likely a deeper cause and if you do not sit down and figure out what is actually bothering her and fix it, she will eventually walk out.

It takes two to make a relationship work, and mind games don't count as work.

Unless if you did something wrong than good job. I do that all the time too. It shows that you have power in the relationship and don't care and women respect you for it. I don't care what criticism the aspergers lesbian feminist women here say. What you did works Shau.

M ex would end our arguments with words to the effect that if I didn't change to suit her, she would divorce me. This worked for the first ten years of our marriage. Then I told her to go ahead. Two years later, we were divorced.

Be careful when making a bluff; someone else may call it.

Be careful when calling a bluff; it might be the dominant hand.

I never understood why a person would marry another, then expect them to change. I get working on issues, but straight up changing who you are... it just baffles me. Why marry them if you don't like who they are?

Yeah, right.

Women would only respect you for that if they're criticising you for no good reason and realise they were wrong to do so.
Well, unless they're an idiot or incredibly desperate, or were culturally conditioned to put up with guys being jerks or something.

If you're not dating an idiot or someone who was trained to perceive herself as being subordinate/inferior to men, and if her criticisms are legitimate, then declaring "I have no interest in making myself fit to be with, or even in meaningfully engaging with what you say ... so put up with me continuing to be [hypocritical / obnoxious / a bigot / generally just a douchebag (delete as appropriate)] , or else you're dumped" is likely to earn you zero respect and probably a mutual break-up situation.