obsessive relationships

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Does it always seem that your relationships always mean SO MUCH MORE to you than your NT partner?? Maybe it's because people on the spectrum fall harder for the concept of love than the actual connection with that other person. Love is as love does. My previous realtionships as a young woman were me always doing for that other person and that person doing squat for me. I used to build this grandious illusion in my head that I had a love affair when actually it was plenty of sex for them and doodle for me. I would hold on to people who couldn't care less for me for usually up to about 3 to 4 years convincing myself that they loved me. Investing in them constantly, wishing and hoping only to be crushed to find out they actually were having a real relationship with somebody else. I was a source of release, a source of money, a way to build their ego. Think about this. Wouldn't you like a REALationship? I married another person on the spectrum - a stable, hardworking, sane aspie with a belief in God and I'm happy. It feels good to be loved unconditionally. I don't miss the past.

Maybe it's because the women aspies tend to choose the wrong partners. And the male aspies tend to be grateful for what they can get. Thus, there's the stairway to obsession, altogether now! Ooooh and it makes me wonder.

In an imperfect relationship (90% or whatever), the one who loves the least has the most control. Sounds cold? There it is.

know I have problems with relationships as well. I find that I am slow to fall in love. But I do fall in love.

My issues are normal friendships. Sometimes I think people are my friends when they just consider me acquaintances.

I worked at a gym and new my "coach" for six years. I thought he and I were friends. Then at the end of our relationship he said that we were never friends and that it was just a instructor student relationship. Then I found out he was dating my wife.

I have several .. but that is the most severe misunderstanding.

It's been so long I can't really remember what that felt like.