How to live an abundant life? Ignore PUA advice

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How does one live an abundant life (i.e. with love and care and respect for themselves as well as others)and I myself have become a Christian in the last couple of months, I came across something that actually spoke to me last night during a moment of insecurity. I paraphrased this quote to cater to the non-religious people as well.

There are people you meet, books and articles you read, and things you hear others say that will keep you from living the abundant life. You must stand firm in what you believe and in what you have faith in. If you accept the vain thoughts and ideologies of others as truth, they will rob you of your abundant life.

The vain thoughts and ideologies of others: the PUA community and how to approach women would be a good start.

Personally I don't like jargon i.e. "abundant life." Why use that term? Why not just say "live with respect for yourself and others" in the title. It's just that you have a good point, but have lost half of your listeners who will then start moaning about religion and miss the point.

I think that what people are really looking for is some tips on step by step ways of interacting with other people so that they can attract someone of the opposite sex, that's why they gravitate toward PUA stuff. It's like, do this and this will happen, do that and that will be the result. Like a recipe or a knitting pattern, steps to follow.

But yes, it is best to take everything you read with a pinch of salt and I agree, love and respect are important qualities. If you care for yourself, look after yourself physically, keep clean etc. and look after your growth as a complete person, set goals and live your life with a purpose and you also show respect to other people, those are basic things that can draw someone to you.

If you don't wash and only spend your spare time sitting in front of the television eating chips, then maybe not so attractive.

I'm with hurtloam on this. I think you scared off a lot of people with the term "abundant life". When I read it, I thought of these two things: Christian Evangelism, with preaching about the one true way to happiness, being saved, and taking a certain religious figure into your heart; or New Age concepts, like chakra, aura, oneness with nature, and connecting with another realm. Plus, it raises the question: "What kind of abundant?" Financially? Mentally? Spiritually?

While these things are wonderful to people who are able to relate to them, they're too vague and abstract for many aspies, who tend to be very literal and logical-minded. PUA looks seductive (pardon the pun) for a reason. They pretty much tell you what you need to do and which results will happen. (Of course, many of them are very vague about how to do it, but that's beside the point.) So while your heart is in the right place, I strongly recommend rewording your advice, to allow it to appeal to a wider audience.