Why do I Get Along With Foreign Chicks Just Fine?

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Hello

I have a few friends (one an Indian Malay guy and one Indonesian girl) and I feel more understood around them than around my fellow local Americans (my age). What is up with this? I also had a Filipino girl (she flaked eventually), and a Mexican girl, and I understood (and for the Mexican still understand) them better than most American chicks. Why is this? I don't wanna jump to conclusions and say it's those American feminazis or whatnot (since even some feminists are not as cruel), but I really wonder if it is where I live (city, state, country, or otherwise) or am I just imagining things? I also have an account with a certain social network, and I chat on there with Filipino girls. I find them rather cute and adorable, not just looks, but just antics, same for Mexican girls. I am not trying to be rude and stereotypical, but I have been on many dates, and none have ever flourished into a full relationship. Is it me, or is something wrong? Maybe it is just economics, supply of women and men. And no I am not going to order a mail order bride, I am not a sucker (with all the horror stories). Any thoughts?

Different countries have different social norms.

Also, if they are foreign exchange students, people tend to be more friendly when they are out of their element.

People with AS benefit greatly from the 'alien factor' -- meaning that when they are in a foreign country, or when among foreigners, they will seem no more nor less 'strange' than any of their compatriots. In some circumstances, AS behaviour can come across as 'endearing' to their cultural hosts (I am thinking particularly of the English, here, and how the bumbling, pedantic well-meaning buffoon image plays out for us).

hmmm. My mom says my problems will follow me where ever I go, but on the other hand I have better time (at least online) with my online friends than my real life acquaintances. Would my dating life improve if I went abroad?

I used to say that being an aspie is like being a foreigner or immigrant in a new world. The customs are unfamiliar to you. You can't get into the sports everyone else is into. You don't understand people's behavior so you keep to yourself.

Being both an immigrant and an aspie, I was definitely isolated. I kept acquaintances only with those who were different. I couldn't relate to normal people and I guess that's what's going on here, too. You get along with foreigners because you can relate to each other.

So would being an immigrant in a place like let's say Mexico, Philippines, or Indonesia be easier for an aspie, or about the same as the first world/West?

I know about Winston Wu, and he seems like a nice guy. I just don't want to get caught up in grandeur if it is very circumstantial. I live in Michigan in the US, if that is any indication. I know you are a fan of Winston's work, so you understand why I would ask this. I have given lots of thought to Mexico (since there are less gold diggers overall, is closer, and has closer cultural similarities) and Philippines. I don't have the money as of yet, so been trying to date here, but it has been an uphill battle. If I ever get to the point of maybe having some rental properties or some residual income, I am definitely moving to another area. I also have considered country layering, maybe be a resident of Paraguay, live in Brazil or Argentina, and business in US. Thanks for the link. I wouldn't mind hearing some success stories on this.

simple,the american accent is sexy

I get along with many foreigner women (and people for that matter). You don't have to compete for popularity. Don't need to put on a bad guy persona. Doesn't matter how socially awkward you are (some of them are awkward themselves) I live in Michigan myself. And on majority of dates its almost like applying for a job. Lol
When I was on a date with an Egyptian woman. We talked more about interests and random things. I still love my American women. But I can say foreign women are cool too.

People always tend to be more appreciative of other cultures as they're interstingly different. For example, NZ men don't like me, but American men love me.

Also, as you're talking about a westernised society, People who are not american don't have any idea where you fall of the american "social status" ladder. Why? because they don't know the culture. They don't rank you on the same stuff.

if the Malay person is an american.. was born there and grew up there - they would be the same. It's more about this than their actual ethnicity.

The Egyptian woman I met wasn't Americanized. Lol
It was a significant age difference between us, Which I think was a big factor. But the experience was nice,

All races are of the same human species, same apes, if you were always too unattractive to women in your area, chances that you would be unattractive to all women on the globe.

However, they might show more unexpected interest for you because:

- Interested to get citizenship
-They think your oddities are due to your culture.
-They like your exotic features.

All these are temporary and bad reasons tho.

Or you can give them the benefit of doubt and assume she liked you for you and just happened to be foreigner, but if you were unattractive to 100% of women in your area your whole life you really should wonder why a foreigner woman suddenly shows interest in you.