I Finally Came to the End of Me: I am Screwed.

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Now I am not trying to sound like a debbie downer, but I have thought it over, and unless I get more friends, I think my chances for dates (at least where I am) are slim to none. Add to that I don't have zilch in common with most people, and I think I am done. I have come to the end of myself, and unless the Divine or something kicks in, I am stuck, and one of two things will need to happen: either I move to another city, or I move abroad. Since I need o build up finances, I will move to another city. but in the mean time I must toil, and will try my best with what I have. Any of you's come to the end of your rope?

End of your rope in terms of suicide? I was there in 1992. Swallowed 48 sleeping pills with Michelob.

End of your rope in terms of moving from one area to another, I've done that several times over the past 30-40 years. Really, my life has basically been one in transition. For me to stay more than 5/6 years in one place is unheard of. I'm surprised I'm still here in Seattle. This may actually have been my final move anyway.

No. I mean just like this is my fate, and I will work on it taking this into account.

fate sometimes has a sense of humour, when you start to get on with your life and start doing whats right for you instead of looking for something you feel you need. often what you need finds you. a move sounds exciting who knows whats round the corner

I guess what I mean is that unless I have friends (which no major new relationships seems to be forth coming) , I might well accept that women don't like guys without friends. I have been on dates (so I should quit bitching about that, but none have ever materialized into anything). I might still hit on girls, but not expect anything.

For some reason I stopped being dependent on other people what concerns enjoying myself and keeping myself busy, I've also abolished the idea out of my head that I need friends to make myself feel like a person.

Friends are always welcome, same for gfs, but I'm not actively looking for them anymore, I still keep a backdoor open, but if they don't come I won't feel bad, because I know most friends come and go (and sometimes come back after they went).

I noticed people interact with me way better this way, since I don't give off that needy vibe that works so revolting to many people.

This rings true.

It makes me think of the song, "You can't always get what you waaaant, but sometimes.. YA GET WHAT YA NEED YAHYAH"

Seriously though OP. I know it's hard because I had a time in my life where all I could think about was how lonely I was and how badly I wanted a woman.
I occupied my time by working out, studying, bettering myself and I never gave up.

Two years of God awful loneliness went by and then I got a girlfriend.

Then I dumped her a month later because I wanted more time to myself.