Giving up

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Guys I like never like me back. I'm not good enough to be in a relationship with.
All I get is guys who want to use my body.
I figure if I just accept that and let them then I will stop feeling this hurt all the time.

Girls are only interested in me based on my looks, then when they find out what my personality is like they disappear and never come back.

I feel ya honey. I was so decent to my girlfriend without falling into the spineless trap, but she still cheats on me with her playboy ex-boyfriend who treated her like s**t and cheated on her multiple times. Goddamn man...

Here's a drink to both of our sorrows...

OK what happened? All guys ultimately want to use your body, the idea that they will like us for who we are first and foremost is a myth. You just have to hold out long enough that they get the chance to actually get to know you.

I'd been talking to the guy I like and he'd made it clear that he didn't want any kind of relationship right now, and not with me even if he did. And then because I was so tired I made it clear that I did like him, which just makes me look pathetic.
What I DO have are two exes who have both basically said "I don't want to go out with you but are you up for sex?" and two further guys who never wanted to go out with me in the first place but are also saying that.

Do you really believe that?

I think it might make me go numb, which would be better than this.

It's been my experience that it's better to be alone than used and abused. Unless you can find a way to be comfortable with the idea of a mostly physical FWB type scenario, you might end up feeling even more miserable afterwards.

No women ever seem interested in me unless they only want a friend...and even then it's rarer than a Legendary Pokemon.

I refuse to give up hope that I'll be with my best friend one day, but I definitely give up on online dating. Nobody I find attractive & interesting ever responds and 98% of the matches I get aren't remotely my type so why bother?

I'm sorry to hear about your rejection. At age 26, you have many more years of opportunities to find a suitable mate. Though it seems hopeless now, there is no telling what the future may bring.

you are in your twenties, and people (men) are scared of the idea of relationship at that age. They think it involves being tied in the basement and never being allowed to see the sun again.

Also, you probably come over too strong as you have ASD. Most people like someone who is laid back, who doesn't give them any sort of grief, who is supportive of them and enhances their social standing in addition to being pleasant to look at and stimulating sexually.

This guy has been talking to you on FB a LOT. The reason he started saying about not wanting to be in a relationship is probably because you were coming on too strong. As much as I hate to have to suggest this to someone, I think you would probably benefit from consulting The Rules book of dating.

I think you need to practice the Ancient Art of being Laid Back. Do not have sex with anyone right now and just go about trying to build relationships with other humans, not necessarily Relationships, if you know what I mean.

The Relationship will happen when you stop looking for it. It's some kind of law, like gravity and thermodynamics.

Are you off your bonce?! !

That's the worst piece of advice I can imagine!

For what it's worth, I think some of the stuff in Jezebel is absolutely horrible, repellent shite, but it's right about The Rules (http://jezebel.com/5912459/oh-great-the-rules-is-back-with-a-whole-new-bunch-of-dating-garbage).

Well dunno, it was well intentioned. Also, it comes from interacting with Very popular twenty and early thirty year old men (boys!) in the last year who were all single when I met them but now all have girlfriends, so I listened through a lot of what went through their heads in that time. They were players, now they are all loved up. The ladies in question were all clearly playing by The Rules from what I gather and I've met them all as well so have some first hand knowledge of all of it. Either way, I think that the idea to be a bit more laid back than you would naturally feel inclined to behave is always a good advice for someone on the autism spectrum.

There's no PUA book for men had that much fame equivalent to the Rules' fame; it's like the bible for single women.

Really, I'd never heard of it until I came to this website.