What should I do now? Any advice?

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Ok, so I told a few weeks ago to my friend Andrew that I liked him. He told me he had already guessed it, that there was nothing wrong in me telling him and other stuff. He didn't tell me if he liked me back or not.
So yesterday we hung out together (as friends) to go to a comic shop and on the way he told me that he didn't think anymore that there was a special somebody for him and that for the moment he only wanted to hang out with friends. I know his past relationships have been s***ty: his latest girlfriend was a real sociopathic b***h, she started treating him like s**t after 2 months they had been together and they broke after 4 months; the one that had been his girlfriend before this one was unfaithful to him. I don't really blame him for losing the hope to find real love; if I had had the same experiences, I think I'd be the same.
We never talked about the fact that I had told him I liked him, but I guess that him saying thingslike that was pretty much like telling me "I see you just as a friend"?
Anyway, what should I do now? Should I go on being just a friend and wait 'till this depressive period of his is over or what else? I'm so f***ing scared he will find a girl that is better than me (that would not be rare) and that he will forget about me.
Mom advised me to show him a little more love but I don't know if I can't do that because I fear I will be rejected.
Do I have any possibility? Any advice?
A few more things: we have the same tastes for what concerns music, comics, TV shows and games; he doesn't know I have Asperger's because I just told him about ADD; he is not really NT since he has mild dyslexia and some kind of mild dysthymia as well (mild because it doesn't affect his life to the point that he doesn't have enough motivation to do stuff).

I think the only thing you can do for now is carry on being his friend. If you tried for more and he wasn't up for it you'd lose what you probably see as an incredibly important friendship.

Boyfriends come and go. Friends stick with you for a lot longer.

Stick with being friends. Give him words of encouragement and support. I think the guy probably needs some words of encouragement. It is possible he may respond well to a kind act performed for him as well. Try those out as friends and see how he reacts. I would believe that if he likes it, he will give you positive feedback.

Yeah, he's just a friend. Try not to be sad about that; cherish it. Friends are rarer than boy/girl friends.

True story right there. Good friendships outlive crushes, boyfriends/girlfriends, wives/husbands, second wives/second husbands, and so on and so forth.

I don't want to give you false hope but neither of you are dead. So you don't know for certain what the future holds.