I asked a girl out on a date...

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I am 29 years old and I realise this is the first time I have actually done this. This year I started to come out of my shell more, be more sociable and on more of a similar wavelength to NT's. This after years of being very reclusive and apathetic about life.

This year Ive been to more social things than ever before, and been on a few kind of "friend dates" with girls, which were very non-intimidating for both parties, went well. I dont think anyone could have figured me out as autistic.

But more recently I have attempted to socially interact with women whom I did have strong romantic feelings, and my god things went to hell. The characters in a Ben Stiller movie would cringe at the level of awkward situations and communication fuckups.

Today for some reason I made the bold and totally uncharacteristic move of asking a girl I do not know at all, on a date. But whom did I choose for this venture? The receptionist at the doctors surgery! I have seen her at work a few times, not spoken any more words than absolutely necessary as my mind is always on other things. But I she seems to me to have a good heart, and she has a subtle understated prettiness about her. My kind of girl, so I did it.

But man, I f****d it up. I gave her my number when I should have got hers, she'll probably hesitate and decide against this crazy proposition. But she was smiling and blushing when I was talking to her like she was very happy to hear it.

Man I am confused and having a painful mix of too strong emotions. I guess this is what normal people feel like when they are 14-15 and going on their first dates. This is going to be potentially very awkward if she says no. I have to go there very regularly to pick up scripts for my parents.

Well, I just thought I would share this for the fact I feel pretty awful right now, like I have set myself up for shame and rejection. Also im on tenderhooks thinking about the possibility of her calling back. I dont even know her name ffs!

In a couple days time I may have a success story for you or be licking my wounds in a corner somewhere.

It doesn't sound like you messed up at all to me. The fact that you gave your number to her seems more polite, because it's more of an open invitation than a personal request. Since you don't know her that well, asking flat out for her number could be pushy. Good luck!

Well you've got to start somewhere, this seems fine.

You're one up on most of us. God speed, man.

Well done! I mean that - coming out of your shell and identifying yourself as being more NT this year is a MASSIVE step. I too go through the same NT ups and downs, I am on a bit of an up at the moment.

Potentially, asking girls out you really do like is like juggling knives and unless you're well practised at juggling balls/batons etc you're going to be worried at getting cut. Put this girl to the back of your mind and if you do get that date, take it easy.