Don't be so hard on yourself

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Remember those times when you are in a desperate need to find someone to be your girlfriend/boyfriend,or to have someone who will listen to you,who will share moments with you?Well for a long time i was very desperate for seeing all of my friends having a girlfriend and me being a loser for not having one. I have never had one till now or to remember someone to have been romantic with me,but don't critisize yourself about this aspect and more especially don't get desperate about it.All I am trying to say is go out there and do things that make you happy,look after your career.care about your family and friends.I lost a lot of time being desperate for this aspect of my life and I just wanted to advice others not to make the same mistake I did.There are more importants things than just relationships.Be happy

I agree, and I've found it's much easier to be happy that way. The more I focus on my work and my life and improving myself and learning how to be considerate and caring the happier I am and the more people just like me without any additional effort. I worry I'll never have one as I want a family but I know I will just need to be patient and focus on my life.

Same here. I just need to focus on getting myself where I want to be. That's enough for now.

This is the best advice anyone can give, I realised a couple of weeks ago about this after having a panic attack that don't focus on what you don't have and not done, look back at yourself and think "Wow i have achieved all these things." We aren't actually destined to be failures all our lives, it just takes longer for things to happen, We are potential great people, We should always put our best foot forward at everything we do. :

I just tend to focus on stuff like game shows, 80s music, sports...... those things. Sometimes I can be hard on myself, but it doesn't do me any good.

I posted this because the desperation not only gets us depressed but most of the times when we approach somebody else,that we like most of the timer we end up being used.The majority of people out there have it so easy to play the psychopath with us,we can be more easily fooled socially than the general population and when someone makes us feel like they are just a little romantic with us we can do everything for them.Also always remember this, when you wake up one day your lover might be gone but your career will always be there

I don't know, this may be just me, but self talk is a great way to find one solution, but what do you do to help fend off loneliness?