The female population is beginning to run out of my type.

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Here's what's happening. the girls that I have gone out with have been the "cute, shy and cuddly" type. Now that I'm 16 most girl I meet are now stronger and more independent. The thing that worries me is the shortage of my type of girls in my age group. Not to mention, the girls in my age group have moved on to like.......... other types that aren't me. I'm getting worried that I won't get a girl my age because I'm not their type. Girls, opinions?

How would you consider yourself in terms of a "type" ?

Let me think. I probably fall under the "sweet and flirty" label. Though I'm not afraid to poke at my gf a little from time to time.

I think being cute, shy, and cuddly is almost a disadvantage, and a large number of the girls I've talked to who are like that have problems with things like enforcing boundaries, getting away from toxic people or environments, being hurt by others, facing stressful situations, etc.

I remember when I was younger and more like that, there was no shortage of people to push me around, ignore me, try to take advantage of me, or treat me like I wasn't capable. The less like that I became, the more respect I received and the fewer people I met who just wanted to use me for something, whether it was sympathy, sex, money, covering their lazy butt at work, or anything else.

The men who were attracted to me were often emotionally unstable and volatile, seeking a gentle "healer," and most people ignored me since I was so quiet and shied away from socializing. I'm still quiet, but now I'm dating someone kind and my classmates talk to me.

One of my friends told me that my guard is always up and keeping people at an emotional distance. By that, he means my brusque nature online, how much I use humor to avoid getting serious, and my reserved nature both online and offline. I know he's trying to help because he doesn't want to see me lonely, but all I can think of is the fact that I can completely trust the people in my life right now, very few people come to me wanting things, and because I talk and own my strangeness I now I fit in - at least on the surface. Even if someone does come to me intending to play me for sympathy, I have no problem cutting them and their sob story out of my life. Why would I ever go back to being shy and cute, let alone sensitive?

I'm not as worried about my type of girls vanishing as I am about the girls in my age group not liking me because I'm no longer their type.

They changed once, you're still young, they may change again. Or you may change. You'll change locations after high school. Anyway you're young and I wouldn't worry about it yet. I'm just a bit older than you and I'm not worrying much (though I admit I'm starting to) even though I haven't ever met anyone I think I'd really like to be my gf. I think there are more important things to focus on at our age.

Different girls like different things. Just be confident in what you are, and you will be fine. Also, I am 30 and there are women like that my age. They don't disappear. You'll find someone. Don't worry.

Dude, you're 16. You don't even need to be getting serious about ANY of that stuff at 16.