is this true?

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someone told me that if i didnt have sex i'd go crazy in my 30's and 40's and end up being a killer or a child molestor, if i didnt do it. it seems really silly but i happen to think there's some truth to it because before i did it i was paranoid and i didnt feel real i felt like i was in a movie looking at myself and i could not talk to girls at all. now i talk to girls all the time like it isnt even a problem. what do you think?

I think that everyone is different, and that, if having sex has helped you to relate better to others, it was a good thing for you.

I first had sex when I was twenty-one. I'm now 57 and married with two children.

Sex, of course, is less of a factor in my life now than it was when I was 21 or 41, but almost everyone has a sexual component to their personality.

I"m sure that that means varying things to varyious people.

i'm like mr cool now, i dont even have any annoying (usually high fluctuations) in my voice when i talk to anyone let alone girls. its freaking amazing, and it all happend because i had sex. i still think sex is overrated though

If it were true, entire populations of monks/nuns/religious orders would be roaming the countryside causing mass chaos. Jokes about Catholic priests aside, whoever told you that is misguided.

I'm like that too. Before I lost my virginity at the ripe old age of 22, I was much less comfortable talking to girls than I am now. One day, I broke down and hired an escort, who took my virginity. Ever since, things seemed to have magically changed. No, I didn't become a "playa", but I could talk to girls much more easily. It's like having sex with a girl opened a new channel that allowed me to relate to girls on an emotional level, something I couldn't do before. And all because I had sex, albeit with an escort. But like richardbenson here, I don't think that sex is anything great, either.

But monks and preists do molest children. Theyr usually riddled with inner conflicts too, because their religion tells them "sex is evil", but their biology tells them "hey you need to get laid". I'm not excusing their behavior but it does happen, alot. Child molestors need to be punished, but at the same time society needs to take some penalty for leaving people with no outlet and creating these kinds of monsters. Yes I do think it should be a right, because it's a basic human need. It just needs to be balanced in a way that respects both genders, both clientele and provider.
Child molestors and sex offenders, as horrible as they are, don't always start off that way. It's a mental fight-or-flight mechanism kinda like if you sit down and eat a sandwich in front of a starving ethiopian, he'll likely lash out at you and try to take your sandwich. But the reason why a sexually starved person resorting to rape is worse should be obvious. In that there lies a victim for him to fullfill his unfulfilled needs. And two wrongs doesn't make a right. If someone gets so bad off that they might lash out and sexually assault someone, they need to seek asylum, so that they do not hurt innocent people. But, society shouldn't let those demons breed in the first place, which is why I support legalising willful prostitution (and setting up an alternate pay route in order to make it more affordable for lower-class clientele).

Who told you that?...a pyschologist or just some prick?...I figure the more you think about it, the creepier you'll become. I've tried my hardest not to seem like a creepy molestor around the opposite sex...but it's always counterproductive. Guilt and anxiety are a toxic combination...I'm sure child molestors were worried about being child molestors at one point...Just don't let things brew...I mean, just relax.

i agree.
i mean if people didn't have sex nobody would be around. did god think of that when he wrote the bible? Oh my bad son! he didnt write the bible men did

Last edited by richardbenson on 08 Feb 2007, 2:17 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I think who told you this is an NT
many people I know live and die without having sex
I am 26 years old , and very fine , although I don't talk to anyone guys and girls , but when I have to talk to a girl , I just do it , yes my outer look , looks normal , but in my inner self , I hate talking to NT in general not just girls , I think you were shy and now you are not , that's what happened
being a killer or child molester doesn't have to be a virgin to do it LOL , most of killers and child molesters has families and even children , it is not a measure

well yeah i mean i'm sure you could find just about the normalist dude and its possible for him to turn into a wierdo. what this person was saying, (an online friend) was more along the lines of your chances increase bigtime if you dont get some. vs you do

he is still wrong in my opinion , its not a measure at all , sex is not a reason to make a normal person or a sick person , what he said is the same as if I fast for three days without food , I will eat the first human I meet

maybe thier wrong maybe they arnt. right now though its working for me so i'm going to do it, smartly though. i was a little careless because it was my first time so i didnt wear any protection, that mistake will never happen again. i've already been tested for stds/aids and will find out the results this tuesday. i did ask for a shot you can get in your butt, somekind of antibiotic thats supose to kill the most common stds, so i'm sure if i have anything it can be cleared up

I say you were just shy and now you overcome your shyness , its normal
well, keep us updated about the test , I hope you would be fine

Short answer: No.

Long answer: Whoever told you this is a complete fu*khat and needs to quit writing checks that his/her ass can't cash. There's many people out there in the world, both past and present, who've never had sex and they function just as well and within legal boundaries as those who get sexed up multiple times a day.

false... cause there would be way too many blind people (certain activities make you go blind (and give you hairy palms))... if they weren't having sex....

Agreed. I know a guy who scored and didn't seem to help him any. Still unemployed and doing piss all.

I can't talk to anyone, really. But, it seems the more attractive they are, the harder it is, but this problem is being taken care of so (hopefully)..

I have a tough time talking to anyone..