Do aspies have gender role expectations?

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Seeing from a previous topic, I wanted to expand on this idea.

I don't know about aspies in general, but I have less gender-based expectations than most people.

Yes and no.

My husband does. He didn't seem to when we married, but after our son was born he started reading all this right wing stuff about gender roles and got sucked into it. He wanted me to comply with his newfound truth.

In reality, he just didn't want to step up to the parental plate and he used his new 'special interest' to self-justify his behaviour. Not cool.

Us Aspies can have problems conforming to gender roles so I think we could have less expectations. Personally I never really had geneder expectations because I cant conform to the typical male role. My 2nd girlfriend was an Aspie & she kind of took on the male role but she had gender issues. the girlfriend I have now is somewhat on the Aspie spectrum & we don't conform to gender roles in our relationship.

All I want is a nerdy girl with a cute butt. She can be a total tomboy for all I care!

to be honest, i'd prefer a tomboy, if i had the choice.

gender roles have always felt artificial to me, and i see no reason to not split the burdens of living equally and take turns in cleaning/cooking/laundry/whatever, aside from some obvious ones (like breast-feeding a baby; i cannot do that if i wanted to)

I suspect aspies in general have fewer gender role expectations than NTs and I'm no exception. It probably has something to do with following the crowd less than NTs do.

Some do, on a personal level I don't.

I learned about gender roles in Anthropology, and I really don't think I can live up to my own gender...

I think I can live up to being a male.

I'm comfortable in my role as a man.

I expect my girlfriend to be a woman but she doesn't have to be a girly girl, just do the basics like shave and stuff.

I'm conservative when it comes to what I expect from women in relationships. Be the mom and cook and clean and do laundry. I'll fix stuff and do yard work. I will also play the father role for the kids. I don't believe in "the man is the king of the house" but I believe in traditional gender roles in the division of labor. It makes things less confusing. I don't know if this makes sense.

By the way, this has nothing to do with having AS. It has to do with the way I was raised and what I am accustomed to.

I actually like the idea of the woman being my breadwinner. It's not that I look forward to working as a house-husband, but at the moment it seems preferable to having to put up with disagreeable co-workers. I would rather entrust a wife with that kind of heavy-duty socialization.