Is it easier for gay or straight aspies?

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I see a lot of people here desperate for women... unfortunately I can't immediately relate to that, although I'm still desperate to be loved generally.

I dunno...I'm not gay or straight. But I find it easier to date men than women, overall. I'm sure other people have other experiences/opinions.

What exactly is your question - easier to do what? Find love?

A lesbian friend of mine (bi in denial I say) told me the same thing.

Is what easier for gay or straight Aspies? Dating? Sex? Getting attention? Socializing? Fitting in? Making lasagna?

I think as straight forms the majority of society, it's easier to conform with those norms than it is to go through the added pressure of trying to determine if someone is gay. I guess the easy way around this is to go to gay dating websites/bars.

There's this post that may be of some interest from a male interested in someone who is unsure of the sexuality of someone they are attracted to http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt247344.html

For record I am straight. I am bi curious but only in a casual sex way - I don't think I could have a successful long-term relationship with someone the same sex.

i think it is always harder for us homosexuals with all the homophobia in this world.

(never see any "heterophobes". it is not even a word )

Last edited by AdamAutistic on 17 Dec 2013, 10:51 am, edited 1 time in total.

It's likely easiest for those of us Aspies who don't give much of a damn about who it's easiest for.

what a strange question. It's not like you can decide to be straight or gay depending on how easy it is to get laid comparatively speaking.

I find it incredibly difficult to date both men and women. Quite frankly, I doubt it will ever happen for me again. I'm just not compatible with humans it seems.

bisexual women have it the ''easiest'' (in dating)
just saying your bi,you attract men.
alot of men love bisexual women.

I think what would make it easier for me is just going out and meeting people. I have trouble leaving the house. But I do ok when I'm with people bit of difficulty knowing how to seal the deal with friends tho. I mean have them become regular hang out friends.

*sigh* Not this again.

I agree with the sentiment. I think they don't really have it "easier" from my experience I've learned that everyone wants trust and caring and love. Some people make mistakes on what those are or even what they want. But being attracted to both sexes doesn't make it easier. Case in point, I myself would worry if my partner were attracted to another sex simply because I would want to fulfill all their needs in that department. I can't be a woman. And it would make it harder for us if she really did desire to have a woman. I'm monogamous strictly, loyalty and trust are very important to me. But so is her happiness, if I felt I couldn't give her everything she needs in love I would be worried which would make me unhappy which would affect the relationship. I can be with a woman who admits that she's considered it, I can even be with one who has tried. But being with a woman just because she's bisexual gives me no incentive. I have no threesome dreams no watching her go on another girl. I'm jealous I'm not controlling or invading of privacy but I want and need to feel when a woman is with me that she is with me alone and wants nothing else. For these reasons I disagree.

LOL. This made me laugh.

OP -

Is there really a choice anyway?

I would think it is easier for heterosexuals most likely, because gay people are still very oppressed in so much of the world. Hetersexuals can be more open about their romance and not worried as much about the repercussions of haters and employment problems and marriage barriers because of orientation.

I don't know, maybe low self esteem is the best killjoy out there?

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