buffinator wrote:
sepia wrote:
perhaps she was getting around to messaging you when you started requesting a response. depends on your communication style see... if someone would have done that to me i may well have responded with an 'excuse me?'
my communication style is pretty laid back and intermittent even with close friends. if people start trying to contact me in more than one medium or multiple times i just find them needy and back off. that said, if she liked you a lot, she would have made exceptions for you...
so time to move on.
I was kind of thinking that something like that might be going on. I have a false sense of urgency because my social life is rather empty right now and I'm really just looking for a reason to go out more than anything else. It's infuriating not being able to socialize when I want to. I don't really understand how people develop relationships in text only i.e. dating sites. Really I don't understand how to be valuable to another person in general as few if any of my friendships have lasted past the circumstances they formed in so maybe dating is a bit overambitious of me.
i know that sense of urgency well. i am a slow-mo socializer and feel like i have to measure my social energy out carefully or i get exhausted and clam up. however, left to my own devices by the time i do meet up with some friends, sometimes i find myself overly talkative and dominating the conversation (poor my friends)... this usually happens if i haven't had human contact for a while.
my best online dating experiences have been where we decide to meet after about 5 messages each. i don't find it easy to judge how it will be received if i say, 'hey lets see if we get on as well in real life?'... but unless you are planning a long distance correspondence, it feels like the next step.