I just had my worst first date ever...and feel good!

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So I met another OKC date today. She seemed via text and messaging to be really enthusiastic about meeting, but then when we did, at a local art museum, she seemed completely disinterested and rather harried. Her answers were short and terse, and everything I said, she dismissed almost like she was playing the role of the contrarian...like I mentioned how, even though I wasn't religious, I had an admiration for religious and devotional works of art, to which she replied, "Ugh, those works drive me nuts."

Pretty much the whole date was like that, over coffee, and then as we walked through the museum, even though she seemed totally disinterested in looking at anything (and the thing is, she is the one who suggested the museum to begin with!). And then it all ended...30 minutes later when she said, "Well I'm going to head out," and then turned and walked away without a hug or even a handshake or a smile.

I'm sure there was maybe something going on that I didn't know, and maybe she should've just canceled, but to her credit she didn't. I don't know.

I should've been mad. A few years ago, or maybe even a few months ago, I'd have been mad. But instead I felt a curious calm. like, "Okay, that was about as bad as a date could go." And it was like, I've now experienced just about the worst as far as dating can go,l and I know it wasn't me...it was definitely the other person.

I did my best. I know that. I dressed well, and I went in with a positive attitude and listened to her and was really interested in her work and there just wasn't a thing I could do.

Tonight i go to a classic film screening, by myself, but with the hopes maybe I'll meet someone there.

BR

Be sure you send her a Thank-You note and a can of Raid later, to kill that bug up her ass.

You should feel like you dodged a bullet. You could have ended up having to spend the whole evening with that sourpuss.

OTOH, if that's the worst first date you've ever had, you've been very lucky so far. They can get much, much worse than that.

Now you have a perplexing story to tell your next date.

Now you know why she ended up using okcupid.

Sounds like it wasn't pleasant, but 30 mins in which you find out there's no attraction, and she clearly communicated that to you isn't a total waste. Lucky it wasn't a few hours. Just one to cross off your list, tried, didn't work,... no harm done. The alternative, where she was 'nice' and gave you the wrong impression, wouldn't have been helpful either.

Sounds like you handled it well - you don't take it personally if the chemistry just wasn't there, you just move on.

Are you sure you were the Aspie on this date? Sounds like she has much greater social difficulties than you do..

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

Well, at least you know you two won't be able to work it out.

Keep huntin' !

The way she handled that was immature.

what a waste of your time. she sounds like quite a loser.
better luck next time!

Sounds like you weren't what she was expecting when you met.

I am guessing she turned up, and they OP appeared obviously autistic which some people take as a personal affront, like you've been born autistic specifically to irritate them.

That would explain why she didn't just leave (can't be too horrible to the disabled) but at the same time why she behaved like a maroon.

It can be worse. Trust me. I won't go into my worst date ever, with a guy named "Buck", but it was pretty bad. But, it's not your fault the girl was an a**hole, just like it wasn't my fault that Buck was an a**hole. People like that are meant to probably die alone, or in his case, in prison, alone. (I don't know if he ever went away or not, but I'd lay odds that he did).

Forget that girl. She will find somebody eventually to make miserable. Be glad you escaped.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
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