Keeping a girl interested is a monumental feat

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And I just can't seem to do it. Women are a complete mystery to most men but for us Aspie men they might as well be from a different universe. I can get a woman's attention and get her interested initially but it all falls apart fairly quickly and I never know why. It's like what did I do wrong? Did I text too much or not enough? Did I appear too interested or not interested enough? Did I creep her out with my intensity? Did I say something to offend her? Did I fail to physically escalate soon enough? It could be a million things. It seems like everything has to be perfect to keep someone interested, I don't even see how relationships form and last.

Just venting or do you have a question?

It seems d single question could be a linguistic impassibility here...

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Hmm well I'm losing interest in this thread then...

man, I feel for you. There isn't much you can do, you are who you are, accept it and move on. *hugs*

It could be a lack of connecting with her....I have that issue as a girl, which wasn't so bad when I was younger. I used to be able to just be flirty and cute (but still awkward, drinking a little too much to feel comfortable with eye contact and still talking too much), and the guy would look past other issues for a while because he was attracted to me. I'm not so young anymore, and I'm getting to the end of my cute stage in life. ; ) but for me, I really think it has been my inability to connect with others. The reciprocity is my main social obstacle I feel.

You could always ask one of them why they lost interest. Might be weird if a lot of time has passed, so maybe if it happens again..?.

It could be a lack of connecting with her....I have that issue as a girl, which wasn't so bad when I was younger. I used to be able to just be flirty and cute (but still awkward, drinking a little too much to feel comfortable with eye contact and still talking too much), and the guy would look past other issues for a while because he was attracted to me. I'm not so young anymore, and I'm getting to the end of my cute stage in life. ; ) but for me, I really think it has been my inability to connect with others. The reciprocity is my main social obstacle I feel. I talk at people and never know when the right time to talk is..so people often just prefer to avoid me after a while.

You could always ask one of them why they lost interest. Might be weird if a lot of time has passed, so maybe if it happens again..?.