What will it take for me to find love?

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Lately, with my sister having gotten married, and I am still all by myself @ 26, I have been pessimistic that I will EVER find love because of who I am (always fumbling things like Homer Simpson, and as I've said before, he actually has gotten in trouble at times for his actions): A social mess. But here are some of the comments I have gotten from friends of mine:

First of all, quit concentrating on the negatives. I felt the same way at your age, and ended up marrying a wonderful woman.
The thing that most ASpie guys won't do, is try and act like NT guys. Good grooming counts for a lot with the ladies. You have to dress the part, even if you can't act the part. If you have any foibles about clothing, and/or hairstyles, give them up.
Being in a small town is difficult, but there has to some way to get to a larger town or city.
You have to be assertive when meeting suitable women, and not miss the chance. You also have to give up the idea that you have a "type" of woman who attracts you. If a woman shows interest, reflect that interest even if she's not the ideal physical "type".

even if you do get a girlfriend,could you make it last?

I don't know what it will take.

I guess the question is what are you willing to do?

When I was waiting (or looking) for love during my lonely years (16-18 ), I decided to look in on myself.
I worked on myself so that I knew that I had something to bring to the dating table. I'm sure I had stuff to bring to begin with but it never hurt to work on myself.

I worked on my social skills. I worked on my ability to talk to strangers (which at the beginning of the endeavor was like nil). I worked on my give and take in conversations. I worked on my body language, my facial expressions. I worked on the way that I dressed and my hygiene. I worked on my health.

So by the end of those two years I had

1. Gained the ability to walk up and talk to anyone, anywhere. Whether the person was in groups, whether it was a drop dead gorgeous woman or some elderly man. I could have good give and take conversations. I also could pick up on whether they wanted to continue talking to me or not because some people just don't want to be bothered and so you leave them alone.

2. Dressed well, but not far off from the way I used to dress - I didn't want to change myself but I wasn't going to be walking around the place with that big ole bleach stain on my shirt, you know? Just stuff that had no stains, clean, fit nicely, smelled good, etc.

3. I had lost weight so that helped with the dressing well and made me feel better about myself and the way I looked. I smiled a lot more. I was just happier in general so that helped everything.

4. Practicing on my own body language and facial expressions made it easier for me to determine what other people were trying to communicate to me. Even if their lips said one thing, the body may disagree.

By the end of this, it was easier for me to meet people. And there was no designated place. If I had to go to the gas station to get gas, then I'd go in and talk to the people inside when I paid. If I wanted to go get a coffee or rent a movie at the video store, I'd talk to the people inside when I was doing my business.
My point is there doesn't need to be a place where you go out and meet people. You can meet people anywhere - you just have to keep your body language open and look around and notice the body language of those around you.
I personally hate clubs, bars, or any place that's loud, has lots of intoxicated people and people go there for the most part just to hook up or meet someone. I've never met anyone from there, but that's also because I don't go there. I don't feel comfortable there and I'm not going to suddenly start going just to meet someone, because chances are the people you meet there are just going to be for casual sex or regular hooking up.

Stop looking for love and focus your time and energy on making yourself more attractive. work on your attitude, health, fitness, social skills, mindset etc etc & the happier and healthier you get, the more attractive you'll become to others, and then things will just happen for you when you least expect it. Trying to find someone while you're not the most attractive catch you can be is just an exercise in frustration. So, stop that & refocus yourself on yourself for as long as it takes. Months, years, doesn't matter - you'll be a happier healthier more attractive you for it.

It's a bit cliche, this advice, but it's true and it works. we've all heard it before. I didn't really fully get it until I took notice of a friend doing the same for himself over a period of a couple years, then decided to start doing it for myself. I'm healthier, stronger, fitter, happier, feeling better etc etc and in turn it's attracting others all the while I haven't really put any effort into seeking someone. I still haven't attracted someone I want yet, but meh, I'm not so concerned with that anymore.. I'm still focused on self improvement, and in due time I'll meet someone I want to be with, or better yet the one I want to be with will be attracted to me.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

It will take the same thing for you as it takes for everyone: a little bit of luck, a little bit of hard work/dedication.

Look at your sister's husband, what do you see?

Kiddo, I broke up with my ex at age 30, just a few months shy of turning 31. I'm gonna be 32 in March.

I'm single, no kids.

I'm focusing on bettering my own life; despite being lonely and a little frustrated over difficulty in interacting well with the opposite sex, I'm gonna do what I always do, and just focus on living my life and enjoying every moment of it.

When the right one comes along, I'll be ready for 'er.

Don't put too much focus on it; it gives off an air of desperation, and....we kinda already turn people off as it is having the general appeal of a child molestor/registered sex offender; adding desperation to the mix doesn't help any.

Just be you, enjoy life, and the right one will come naturally.

So what other things in life should I be focusing on?

I will admit right now I have a thing for a couple of people I know online (not saying who, though).......

^ I'll try my best.