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OK, so I signed up on OK Cupid to view the profile from that other thread which turns out to have been made last year, and while I was there I thought, well, what the heck, I'll answer some questions to see what happens. I answered about 25 questions and then got a message about something called Quiver. I click on that and three guys show up on the screen, the middle of which is someone I KNOW from both my work and personal life.

I deleted my profile straight away and luckily didn't have a picture but now feel soooooo weird. Thankfully I don't see this guy very often but still..I was under the impression he was in a long term relationship. I didn't want to look any further on his profile but what if he is looking for someone while still in a relationship and I now know this!? Agh. Awkward.


Edit: Question: all three guys I got matched with so quickly were pasty, geeky guys. I didn't even specify what I was looking for other than people from 25 to 58 who would be from anywhere but weren't looking for just sex. Does this mean that all non pasty people are looking just for sex?

You've been exposed, now the whole office will talk about you being desperate behind your back.

What logic is that?

The sky is going to fall on our heads!! !!

I haven't been exposed - there was nothing on my profile that could id me and no photo. Besides my office knows exactly how desperate I am, it's the main amusement topic at coffee time.



Dunno, I was being facetious. But it got me thinking, I didn't even put anything geeky on my profile but I got matched with all geeks. That could be due to my age and where I live to be fair. And another thing I noticed is that having looked at one of the guys, he seemed really nice (although I'd probably be too old for him) and I was reading the profile and getting really excited and then I read "like dogs, doesn't like cats"
I think it's important to put Mandatory at questions that are really important because I had put Very Important that they like both dogs and cats and got matched with someone who doesn't like cats.

Anyway, just musing, I don't use dating sites, to me this was a big deal.

Because It's the socially inept geeks who are most likely to end up using this sh!t, they are just there in large numbers.

Okcupid sends a notification to all your FB friends, you are exposed big time. Muhahaha.

I ran into this girl I know through a mutual friend when I changed my zip code to my new college. I don't think it's that big of a deal. It's actually kind of interesting because our match% is like 20%.

One of the advantages to paying for the upgrade is "private browsing" which allows you to decide when a user gets a notification that you looked at their profile. If you don't want a user to be able to see you you can "hide" or "block" their profile. In combination with invisible browsing it means they will never see you.

I know for me the main reason I don't get dates that often is I am too timid to talk to people IRL. So if someone sees me and trys to comment "oh, that guy uses okcupid" I would just say: "Yeah, I tried net-flicks but didn't get any dates, sh***y dating service if you ask me!"

Leafplant - that is hilarious - thanks for sharing it.

I am married so I have no way to know, but I sincerely hope you are joking.

Of course he is joking. It *doesn't* send a notification. Ridiculous!

lol, you live in a really small-town or something? If you do stuff like this is just what comes with it occasionally.

This has made me really curious to sign up. Just to see. But I don't use dating websites, and from what others say about them and the gender ratio, I think it would be entirely pointless.

They match you based on the questions you answer and the demographic criteria you select, but the Quiver seems to be a sort of random selection from your matches, not necessarily the best matches.



Your matches are not necessarily going to fit your criteria 100%. If you would have clicked on "Matches" instead of Quiver, you would have seen a larger list of people ranked by match percentage and could have viewed how their answers compare to yours to help you narrow it down.

You know what, you got me curious so I re-signed up with exactly the same data and questions answered but this time I didn't lie about my age. O M G - it's like suddenly I live in a different town altogether. One full of really gross guys. I am not kidding. There is one whose profile pic is him naked with just a book covering his junk and you can't even see his face. There is one with super scary face (he is actually making a scary face to camera). One whose profile pic is him hugging two hot women. One posing with two women who are not hot per se, but compared to him who knows. Then there is the guy my friend was dating for a bit from another site so I know he is just after sex. One whose profile pic is just his boxes shorts and one who has his age as 51 but a picture of a teenager for the profile pic.

I don't know how other people feel when they go on these things but now I remember why eharmony didn't work for me. All I think while scrolling through all these faces is "I never want to go near another human being ever again." Perhaps I should move?

Edit: I have discovered the advanced search function. Adjusting for those with University and higher education and cat lovers, I have received a much more acceptable selection (apart from the scary face guy - he is still there). I mean, this is so weird. I could run into these people in town or going about my business. Knowing me, I'd probably go - do I know you from somewhere and then they will think I am hitting on them because my photographic memory for faces will have been insisting they are someone I know and shouldn't be rude to just because I can't remember where I know them from. I must not continue with this experiment. Unless I could find my boss on here, which would totally make my day although it is entirely impossible.

Edit2: OMFG!! There is a guy with a picture of him lying on the ground behind a tiger, And the tiger is the one with the worried face. wtf!

Last edited by leafplant on 21 Jan 2014, 3:15 pm, edited 2 times in total.

You probably need to answer more questions; 25 is not enough to get a quality match. Also, make sure you click "Order by," and choose "Match %" so that the best matches are at the top of the list.

Wow, I don't know how you could just close the page without reading more on this guy you know - I'd be so curious!

Anyway, yeah you need to answer at least 100-200 questions, get to know the site better, you will find decent people. There are a lot of nerds and geeks on the site because it attracts those types (not so much these days, I'm finding more "typical" people on there lately), but there should be heaps of people to search through unless you live in a remote area.