I finally got my closure

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Since I reported problems here several weeks ago in regards to being able to move on from my previous relationship, I wanted to chime in that I finally got the closure I needed, and I'd like to share how:

a few weeks back, I ran into a former co-worker at Wal-Mart; this guy was one of the people who worked with me and my ex at our previous job.

He asked me how we were, apparently forgetting I'd told him it didn't work out. But here's where things get more interesting:

see, he was there with another co-worker the night my now ex came in before she and I became a couple; and they were both there when my ex said right to me she was trying to get help for her then ex-boyfriend, which had raised red flags to me for ages.

This was something I felt had to be addressed, as I'm the Autistic guy with no social skills, but I picked up on all of this?

Lemme repeat this here: out of all the people I worked with, I was the only person in my department who was picking up mixed signals from my ex before we got into a relationship. Everyone else thought she was totally "up my ass".

Nonetheless, I confronted him with that scenario that went down, but I did tell him how I appreciated that he and the others were just trying to help and look out for me, knowing that I'd had so many problems in the world of dating, and they thought I deserved someone great. I gave him a pat on the back, and he knows I love him to death.

It was one of those moments I just...needed the experience of to clear that air with someone.

The other came a few weeks later:

I was thinking about my ex, and I decided to check out the profiles of both her recent ex, and the guy she's now with that she was cheating on me with (one of them). It would appear she's happy with her current man, and when I saw that....a good feeling rushed thru me.

I just wanted her to be happy, and it appears she is now. Granted, she's stoned off her ass with the guy the majority of the time, but even still..she has what she wants now, and I'm happy that she's happy.

I told a few coworkers about it and they said to me "your closure has come full circle".

Yeah it has; it feels great.

So, I wanted to share all of that with you.

And apparently her recent ex tried to add me on FB; he told me about problems he's been having with her in regards to the kid of theirs, and I simply responded with "I really don't want to get involved". I'm glad I didn't