Emotional distress

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I get too deeply involved in any relationship...its not that i can switch off
and just have sex.
I require attention, love, care and someone to hold my hand and care.

But guys nowadays hit with just the intention of getting you into bed.

Recently a guy started a emotional relationship with me. He would chat online with me for hours
and then he asked me out for date..

I declined.....gradually he started acting weird and stopped replying to my online chat

I feel so distressed
Depressed
And suicidal

Even a emotional attachment could cause so much distress is scary for me

A break off after physical relationship would just drive me to suicide

Does anyone else get so seriously emotional in any relationship....i mean in casual online relationship also.

Why do guys do this........he knew very well that i suffer from depression, i had a bad childhood
i have a rollercoaster marriage then why did he want to play with my emotions

I am the exact same way. I was in a FWB situation before (this is how I lost my virginity), but I can't do another one because I easily become attached to people.

And this can apply to just regular friends as well.

I too get deeply involved. I'm not like NT people who can quickly jump from relationship to relationship. I invest myself to one relationship and it'll be years before I invest myself again if we break up.

I'm sorry that you're feeling hurt, but I think you might've actually hurt this guys feelings by saying no to getting together. He probably felt very rejected. Maybe you should reach out to him and apologize for rejecting him. Why exactly did you say no to a date?

wats FWB
ya me too get attached to friends...

i did ask him out later on so he started saying dont you have family responsibility etc.

he is acting weird...if he writes and replies properly then we can take the relationship anywhere
he just asks me sometimes where have you disappeared etc
and when i reply then he doesnt reply back.

because of this odd behaviour i feel its too complicated and confusing
and i cant handle complicated things...

FWB=Friends with Bennefits

I want to make sure I understand your post.

You were talking to the guy a lot, then he asked to meet you and you said no and then he stopped talking?

Was he all "hey baby let's f**k" or just to go on a date?

If it's the later, there is a thing called "cat fishing" if you've heard of it. Basically, a girl (or it can be a guy) will meet someone online and talk to them pretending to be someone else. One of the telltail signs of a cat fisher is a refusal to meet in person.

I'm not implying you were doing that, but your refusal to meet (assuming he wasn't saying meet me in my house for sex) could be taken that way. I know I actually stopped talking to a girl one time because we'd been talking for a month and she refused to meet.

actually he my doctor and used to visit him for treatment
eventually he stopped taking interest in my treatment
and he was like asking me to meet him
i did agree to meet him then he said i must be having family responsibilities etc

he is married and im married too....
we do like each other
but his behaviour nowadays is like
he doesnt want to chat and i dont know somekind of silence....

its strange and i find it complicated
if he continues chatting then we can take the matter to some destination
but asking me where im and how im
and then not chattin at length
can make me feel weird.

i do get attached to people
its not that i will get into one night stand and then forget the person
im emotional and sensitive

Your doctor?
There are some pretty big ethical issues involved, if he was a therapist I feel the need to warn you of the dangers of becoming involved with a person who has studied you and your issues. Not all therapists are well adjusted people and if they approach you to engage in an intimate relationship that's a massive red flag, be careful.

ya exactly thats what i also felt
he understood every scenario well
and he delibrately was trying to seduce me during my depressive phase
he was saying why are you depressed you should go out and enjoy
come with me for a drive etc

i have depression from childhood plus diagnosed with bipolar2
and in that condition he was pestering me for a date
that means he was quite knowing well that i will give in to his demands

its a red flag scenario and he must have spoiled so many girls life by doing
such things

you're still at it with that doctor...

do you want us to tell you that it is ok what you are doing?