taking a break from online dating.

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I recently disabled two of my online dating accounts and deleted the others. I wasn't getting dates anyway.

It is in my profiles that I am not interested in casual dating or sex so that was probability turning off guys who read it. And I kept getting emails from men who obviously didn't read it. Sorry but I just don't respond to "hey baby U R sexy" that doesn't sound like a serious guy to me.

I'm trying to get into school so I may not have much time if I do anyway and don't need any distractions. And who knows, I plan on working in the medical field, maybe I'll meet a cute doctor after graduation. Some one smart enough to hold a decent conversation. And maybe enough understanding of the human brain to accept me as I am rather than expect me to change.

I can always reactivate them at a later date.

Gotta do what you gotta do. School should be your #1 priority.

sounds like a good ideal, hope you do great in school

sorry you didn't hear from any good guys that .

i don't understand why someone would start off with sexy or sex messages o.O

anyways medical field sounds like a cool choice and cute doctors or nurses are sought after i think. seems like one would have to be smart and responsible to be in a medical field so i imagine that when you're done your attract those types or at least meet them in the field

I just hope I can get into and through school OK. It is quite scary, especially from a financial standpoint. I know there is financial aid out there. I think I qualify for a lot as I am living well below the poverty line. Its just a matter of finding it.

And then I don't know how work is going to work if I go to school full time. I work 3 days a week but it's 12 hour shifts, from 7 pm to 7am. Not sure how she can work around that but I have been told my boss is required to work with me. But if I have to be cut down to part time I'll have even less money and I already live on a shoestring budget. Though honestly I eat out way to much so I can cut back there, I just hate dirtying up pots and pans cooking for one. And I might have to get internet at home since I won't carry the laptop to town when its raining out.

Just so much to do. But I decided to apply for next fall instead of summer so I have some time. Time management has always been an issue. Luckily I am a very fast learner. Got good grades in most subjects in highschool and never really studied, it was the fact I never did homework that drug my grades down.

But the job I am doing is basicly CNA work but my boss refuses to pay more than minimum wage. I have been there over 2 years and never gotten a raise. The other day I spent an hour trying to clean up an old lady who soiled herself and would not get out of bed so I could change her and her sheets. There is only one person on night shift and I was having to lift and pull on this woman who pretends she can't stand up at night. It's not worth it for $7.25 an hour and no benefits, especially if I end up injuring myself. But I will never find a better job with no education.

Of course I would not be opposed to dating if I meet a guy in school. Maybe we could help each other study. If he is in school to he'll understand that my time will be limited.

And many people meet love interests at work, I just have no male coworkers and work alone all night and I would love to date a doctor but a nurse or lab tech would do, he just has to be smart and kind, two qualities I associate with doctors.

But for the most part I feel that online dating has failed me. It mostly is a waste of valuable time and most guys on those sites probably would be to demanding of my time if I did start dating one.

sounds like you're working it out yeah money can be a big concern for lots of people. i know i worry about it every month.

that job sounds rough especially for so little money

yeah i found its best to start in fall, alot of class will have part 1,2,3 and and won't offer part 1 in later terms so by starting in fall you won't miss out and it gives you time to get ready.

i always did good in school after i got over my bad year in middleschool. got all A's and one be in the 2 years of my program at college.

don't want to scare you off but do be carefully doctors are humans, so not all are nice and caring. some do it for the money and sex, but there are really nice ones so when you do meet them take your time to get to know them like you should with anyone lol.

i wouldn't say most , but there are guys who would be demanding of your time and others like me who have loyalty and patience. i wouldn't look at it as been a waste of time but a learning time, maybe it helped you learn more about what kind of guy you want, though i don't know .as i don't know much about you.

There is a huge gender imbalance on dating sites. Only the top 20% of guys on dating sites with the best photos would get any dates. Most women on dating sites get bombarded with messages and can be really selective on picking the best looking guys. Most guys are simply wasting their time online when they can go out more and meet some one in the real world.

best of luck to you

Online dating the average guy needs to spend time making up a great profile and then spend time writing messages. Online dating is a time, effort and a numbers game. For success online a male would would need to use fake male model pics and have a profile to portray the image of being good looking and successful in life.

Agree with the bolded part. The rest is absolutely false. One of the first assessments most women make is "does he look REAL?" If the profile has a professionally-taken photo, I automatically hit "skip." Even if the photo is really him, I'm not interested in dating the kind of guy who has professional photos taken of himself!

For me the sexiest part of a man is his brain. Looks matter a little, but mostly he just needs to look clean and healthy with a full head of hair. I tried asking a guy out once (that only took a couple of days). He was a lawyer who played on a rival trivia team. He is several inches shorter than my short butt and had a lazy eye but otherwise nice looking and seemed nice and definitely smart. He wasn't interested in me though.

Couldn't agree more.

out of curiosity do you look at guys pictures then profile, or profile then the pictures?
i tend to do the later but either way i read the profile, however i've been rejected by women who only look at the pictures.

I have pretty slow internet, so I can usually read the entire profile before the picture(s) even loads. Sometimes, it only takes reading one or two lines of a profile before I hit the "skip" button, and thus never even see the picture.

But, I confess, there has been a time or two when I read the profile, thought to myself "hmmn, kind of interesting" and then saw the picture and said "OH HELL NO!" The biggest reason for this is that men (at least in my age group) will often describe themselves and "handsome and fit" and then their photo shows that they weigh at least 300 lbs and strongly resemble the north end of a southbound mule.

I certainly don't require that a man be classically handsome (I tend to be attracted to facial expressions, not features), but if the guy doesn't have a sufficient level of self-awareness (or at least a little humility) to describe himself somewhat honestly and accurately, then I'm not interested.

The man's picture is at the top of the profile, so that is what I see first. But unless he is absolutely repulsive I read the profile, or at least part of it, before making a decision. Sometimes it only takes a few lines to realize he is an idiot or a slime ball.

Yes, this, on the rare occasion I have gone on there with actual high-speed internet.