I'm a guy & bi. How do I know if he fancies me?

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There is this guy that I've liked ever since he first joined the club I attend.
Like myself, he has aspergers.
I have told the staff how I feel about him, and they are OK about it. I haven't told him though.

Today at the club he sat next to me & we chatted. We looked into eachothers eyes (he has such beautiful eyes).
Then, later on I sat on a bean bag & it had a leak in so the polystyrene balls went all over the place including on me. He came over to me & without asking just picked them off of me.
Later on this last afternoon I turned around and there he was. Our mouths were VERY close and he moved towards me. Then later on he came up to me and put his face right near mine. I don't know if he was moving in for a kiss, or if he wanted to smell my breath because he took in a BIG sniff. I had had a cheese & tuna baguette for lunch.

I do like him, and I don't lust about him. The reason I like him is because I can relate to what he says & the way he behaves. However, I would like it if we were laid in bed together looking into eachothers eyes & we kissed. That would be nice. Nothing more than that.

How do I know if he feels the same way?
I've never had a boyfriend or girlfriend & would like to know what it is like to have one.

Any advice?

sounds very sweet,
You could try simply asking him if he is interested in you that way. If he is then enjoy and have fun finding comfort in each other. If he is not then at least you wont be constantly wondering what if.
Good luck I hope it works out

Clearly he doesn't hate being around you even a little bit! woot!

So ask him (if you're brave and boring) or up the ante a bit, if he moves close to you -move a bit closer, if he touches you in some way -touch him a tiny bit more personally.
"Accidentally" brush or bump him with your hand or arm while he's very close. If you "think" he's leaning in for a kiss but you're not sure, kinda brush him with your forehead gently, think of how a friendly cat might act.

"Absent mindedly" make your physical space kinda cross his physical space, two things cant be in the same space so you'll end up touching. For instance, if he's picking white balls off of you kinda step on his foot gently as if you were totally unaware and were not worried about him being so close. (acquaintances are very aware of personal space and wont violate it without good reason so this will indicate that you have no problem with him being close and intimate)

Or you can probably find lots opportunities to "misunderstand" what he says and playfully punch him or pinch him in retribution, if the "retribution" is too "gentle" for the "infraction" it will make your point quite clearly, especially if you do it multiple times so there's no doubt that you're faking it. =)

Or find some reason to pick or brush lint (real or imaginary) off of him.

Play with finding reasons to make physical contact with him and if he reciprocates keep upping the ante with more personal contact, like maybe diving your hand into his pocket trying to get his keys so you can steal his "fancy" car. If you did get a hold of them, it'd "make" him chase you to grab you and get them back, then sneak more touches in. whee!

You know, that kinda thing.
Have fun!!