Looking for an aspie girlfriend...

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18 Feb 2014, 8:54 am

I go on a lot of dates with NT but I usually can't connect with any of the girls. There just doesn't seem to be any chemistry and it seems that they date me because they like my face? I dunno. I just can't get into the things they do and I feel that I shouldn't have to give up on the way I am to make someone else happy. They should like me for who I am just as I accept them for who they are. I'm looking for an aspie girlfriend and I seem to have no luck in finding one. Any suggestions? I'm a really nice guy, I love cuddling, I love video games, watching movies, and being in nature. I just feel I will never have any luck but if any girl is interested feel free to message me.



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18 Feb 2014, 3:48 pm

Maybe attend anime conventions comic book stores or the library!


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18 Feb 2014, 4:57 pm

Doesn't sound like a bad idea. Thanks. c:



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18 Feb 2014, 7:11 pm

What kinds of things can you not get into that they do? These NT girls you go on dates with, I mean. Is it things that are totally against they way you are? Are they things you can compromise on? Have you ever really fallen for one of these girls but had the NT-AS get in the way? I'm a NT female and I love most of those things you mentioned, like being in nature, cuddling, watching movies, etc. I'm sure there are plenty out there like me that will have shared interests with you. I had a NT husband who wasn't remotely interested in anything I'm interested in. Now I have an AS bf who, although right now things have been rough, has a lot more in common with me and many more shared interests. I feel like you could find a NT girl or an AS girl who would fall into this category. I agree with AspieOtaku, those might be good places to start looking for someone with shared interests.

Good luck with the search!



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18 Feb 2014, 10:01 pm

Just they expect me to be things I'm not and if I could compromise on somethings I would.
I appreciate what you said. Thank you.



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19 Feb 2014, 12:45 am

Are you sure you can't find a girl who doesn't enjoy cuddling and watching movies, and nature? Maybe if you've dated the same girl a couple times, invite her over for a movie. Or make the next date a nature walk. That seems about as usual as you can get to me.


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19 Feb 2014, 9:42 am

I've tried that already.