Fear of being asked out?

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The thought of being asked out or simply flirted with makes my stomach turn with anxiety. The wierd thing is, i'm in literally no position right now for that to ever happen (I'm homeschooled and in the social circles I have there aren't really any girls I know of to potentially approach me), and I've decided I don't want to persue a relationship for some time (like, after college at least) to keep my life simple. Yet I'm obsessed with picturing myself in a situation where someone expresses interest or others insist I approach someone else, and imagining how I'd react, which is usually negatively. I have pretty bad social anxiety and low self-esteem as a result of a lot of failed social interactions when I was younger due to AS, so I think that may fuel this; however, I'm not entirely sure why I keep entertaining this pointless thought.

Has anyone else felt this way?

I have the same, except that I am a girl...

I am HIGHLY guilty of this too. Relationships are the next social universe I have to explore and learn, and I am deathly afraid of entering. I have no sword or shield, nor armor, and my white stallion ran away (knight in shining armor reference), but there is no time like the present to try and learn. Still, I am petrified of a beautiful woman asking me out. You two are not alone in this anxiety, and I hope the best for you.

I have/had this fear (it's ACTUALLY starting to get better now) because the last relationship I was in almost ended the other person killing me. That was almost four years ago and I'm JUST now starting to get over that fear...it's still kind of freaky but I'm doing better. No, you guys aren't alone.

Fear of being asked out? I never had that problem being male, that's for sure. More like the opposite, I'm more like a ghost. I never knew of any women that asked any guys out in my experience.

Yup.

Just because someone asks you out doesn't mean you have to go.

I'm not afraid of being asked out. I don't look forward to it though. I hate rejecting women, and 99.9% of the time, that is what I do if a woman asks me out. I think I am not afraid of it, because I know what to do in that situation. I just nicely tell the girl no. The scary thing for me is if I ask a girl out and she says yes! I can't imagine a girl that I have a crush on asking me out though. It is always women who I am not attracted to that ask me out.

I'm afraid of asking someone out, not the other way around.

Over thirty years of dating experience (some good and some bad) and in all that time I've been asked out TWICE. I'm different though, I treat it as a tremendous complement so I'm happy to say yes.

Fortunatly for the OP, women often ask men out.