NT women cant stand aspie men!

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Just kidding!yes they do some love aspie men for who they are! Made you look hehe for those who didn't get it it was a joke! I'm sure there are a lot of good nt women who like aspie men it just takes time. Love has its way of finding its self at times. I was hyper when I made this thread!

NT women date aspie men all the time most of the time they don't know it though.

The problem is when they prefer to ignore all the bad Aspie traits and think of you as a poor little wounded sparrow that they can "fix". Women love to believe they can fix men and end up hurt and resentful when you turn out to be all the things she thought she could fix. Too much hassle. I have several female friends who started off as dates. When I realise they were getting carried away and become distant they get worse! Lots of "you know only I understand you" texts which you know is wishful thinking. Even I don't understand me!
Even worse are the ones who think, because they find you attractive and you aren't sitting rocking or counting cards, that you must be mistaken and that it's probably just a misdiagnosis. Sheesh! They will often pretend to accept the diagnosis but really they think that, yep, they will fix you.
Because I am crap at telling women that I am not the man for them it just drags on into the "friend" zone but of course they are just waiting for you to realise your "mistake".
It is a rare and valuable woman who genuinely tries to see through the eyes of someone with ASD rather than just pretend to so they can get you in the sack or get started fixing you.
Twice married to NTs - both divorced. Happier on my own
P.S. The reason I posted was because I happened to notice this post about 2 minutes after another "all the other girls aren't like me - I understand you" chat on Facebook. It resonated with me. Just sayin.....
(44 years old, male Aspie)

I was expecting this to be like one of billiscool's threads (no offense to him, but the topic title seems to be a common theme in a lot of his posts lol) I'm personally not one to overgeneralize, some women may fall head over heels for someone with Asperger's, while the very same personality traits may repulse others.

We may drive them nuts at times but some still love us for our good hearts.

I'd love to be "fixed." Where are these women exactly? Because this has not been my experience.

Take me as an example, who can stand me?

Hee hee... I don't know why you're so hard on yourself... you're always getting attention and dates. Bad luck... but dates nonetheless.

I'm glad to see you are finally 'getting it'! lol There are some NT women out there who love Aspie men.



I've never ignored the 'bad Aspie traits'. I like to help people but I know being an Aspie is something that I can't fix (can anyone?) nor do I want to try. My approach has always been to try to understand the Aspieness as opposed to trying to fix it. I understand why he does what he does. I have sent an 'I understand more than you think' email. I sent it because I wanted him to know that I'm not going to flip out on him. I'm in it for the long haul. Yeah there are new things that come up but he's still everything I thought he would be.

I can see some NT's not fully understanding the scope of AS and thinking that 'they just need the right person and I'm it'. Then they get into the relationship and realize 'woa this is more than what I thought'. I think that's what sends them into 'I can fix him' mode. They don't realize that they probably need to walk away. Which is what anyone should do in any relationship where they don't see that it's going to work out. But there are the die hards who don't want to admit defeat and keep on truckin' and making things worse. The relationship crashes and burns and then, and only then do they walk away leaving the wreckage and devastation behind.

Being 'fixed' would imply that one is broken. Maybe you just want someone who is willing to accept you they way you are. But really Isn't that what we all want?

Oh, another a**hole you mean? hmm

Where I can find an assholette? :p

So many possible naughty jokes.... must........ resist......

You can flip the coin,NT men like aspie women,but for one thing only.......

giggity giggity goo!

Ya got me good, AspieOtaku, ya got me good. Well played....

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