12 Mar 2014, 2:25 pm
Eureka13 wrote:
I'm just trying to boost my post count so I can get to whatever is after "Velociraptor." 
We've all been there.
At 500, it's "Phoenix", and you can create your own rank at 1,000.
12 Mar 2014, 2:52 pm
Aw, man, guess I'm gonna be a Phoenix for a loooooong time. 
12 Mar 2014, 4:29 pm
Oh good god.......
Aspie men: have it harder during the initial "approach phase" of dating.
Aspie women: everything beyond the initial "approach phase" is an utter crapshoot.
Good luck to every socially-inept person who has to compete in the wacky world of NT dating. My deepest respect to you.
12 Mar 2014, 8:39 pm
Cafeaulait wrote:
This topic is gonna get a lock.
Unfortunately we aren't allowed to lock things on the grounds of "not this s**t again".
12 Mar 2014, 8:42 pm
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14 Mar 2014, 1:40 am
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14 Apr 2014, 2:05 am
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Why is getting married in one's 20s a measure of "having it easier"? I don't believe that most men or women of that age, NT or Aspie, are emotionally mature enough to make a lifelong commitment. Since my parents' generation, I don't know of one single marriage that occurred with one or both of the couple in their 20s where they are still married.
Are you saying that those *plenty* of young married aspie women here (20-23) are emotionally immature?
Well, if that's true, then it's a stronger indication that it's easier for them
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If Aspies mature emotionally more slowly than NTs, doesn't it make more sense to get married at a later age than NTs typically do?
True but for some odd reason, a lot of WP women get married very young. In fact, more frequent than what I see in my Middle Eastern surrounding which is ironic.
14 Apr 2014, 2:45 am
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Eureka13 wrote:
Why is getting married in one's 20s a measure of "having it easier"? I don't believe that most men or women of that age, NT or Aspie, are emotionally mature enough to make a lifelong commitment. Since my parents' generation, I don't know of one single marriage that occurred with one or both of the couple in their 20s where they are still married.
Are you saying that those *plenty* of young married aspie women here (20-23) are emotionally immature?
Well, if that's true, then it's a stronger indication that it's easier for them
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If Aspies mature emotionally more slowly than NTs, doesn't it make more sense to get married at a later age than NTs typically do?
True but for some odd reason, a lot of WP women get married very young. In fact, more frequent than what I see in my Middle Eastern surrounding which is ironic.
i'm an aspie female and i've made it to 34 without getting married. dating has never been easy for me, and no one has ever thought my social awkwardness was "cute", only annoying. women are supposed to be social facilitators, we are told our whole lives it's our most important role in society. from that perspective i am not "adorably awkward", i am useless.
14 Apr 2014, 3:33 am
14 Apr 2014, 9:50 am
14 Apr 2014, 8:45 pm
14 Apr 2014, 9:49 pm
Personally, I'm not entirely convinced that anyone is ever entirely emotionally mature (myself included). I do think that some percentage of the population, NT and ASD alike, have learned to "fake it 'til you make it."
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15 Apr 2014, 2:52 am
starvingartist wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Eureka13 wrote:
Why is getting married in one's 20s a measure of "having it easier"? I don't believe that most men or women of that age, NT or Aspie, are emotionally mature enough to make a lifelong commitment. Since my parents' generation, I don't know of one single marriage that occurred with one or both of the couple in their 20s where they are still married.
Are you saying that those *plenty* of young married aspie women here (20-23) are emotionally immature?
Well, if that's true, then it's a stronger indication that it's easier for them
. Quote:
If Aspies mature emotionally more slowly than NTs, doesn't it make more sense to get married at a later age than NTs typically do?
True but for some odd reason, a lot of WP women get married very young. In fact, more frequent than what I see in my Middle Eastern surrounding which is ironic.
i'm an aspie female and i've made it to 34 without getting married. dating has never been easy for me, and no one has ever thought my social awkwardness was "cute", only annoying. women are supposed to be social facilitators, we are told our whole lives it's our most important role in society. from that perspective i am not "adorably awkward", i am useless.
Very true that, which is why the common argument here (regarding gender ration) that "Aspie women go under the radar hence why undiagnosed" doesn't make sense at all, a lot of women here insist that the real ratio is 1:1 but I don't believe this is true at all; and if they really go under the radar as they claim that doesn't explain the gender ratio in low-functioning autism, which is an obvious condition to specialists unless AS is a totally separate condition from classic autism, a classic female autistic is as obvious as a male classic autistic.
No, I strongly believe there's a genetic factor in the gender disparity even if it's not yet discovered.
15 Apr 2014, 3:07 am
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