why some people have problem with dating

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She makes a list of why I dont date. They (the girls) are way to different from me:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Nuh9YrG7OE

Ignore her. She's just an imbecile trying to make a little bit of money off of desperate guys.

Engineer is one of the most desired professions for dating here, tell a single girl this guy x is engineer and her eyes glow, "oh he's an engineer??" is a common reaction. Same for doctor and lawyer.

*All* the engineers I know are married or engaged.

Not this one. I have experienced the same reaction plenty of times ("Oh you're an engineer? Wow, that's impressive...you must be really smart!"). But after they get to know me better, that initial "fascination" fades away, and so do they. I will say though, every engineer I work with is married or engaged, I think I'm the only single person in my whole office.

This guy who kept groping me in secondary school and trying to get me to have sex with him went on to become a rocket scientist.
I am amazed by this... he is seriously thick as a sack of mince generally speaking, but I guess he had a lot of academic aptitude or something to have achieved that.
I am constantly astonished as days go by without a large chunk of the planet being accidentally obliterated by a rocket which he has designed.
I would rather have a relationship with a bucket of turnips than that guy...

The_Face_of_Boo: Then you dont know me. I am software engineer (pretty close to computer science but a bit more practicals). I was 31 year before I got my first date and it did not vent well (we went out once). Most girls I meet are not woth asking out or talking too since we dont have anything in common eg most girls is like her in the video. I dont want a girl who would like to do all those mind games etc

This made me laugh because my late fiance was a rocket scientist, and he was thick as a sack of mince when it came to dealing with women. If we hadn't had so many other things in common to build a friendship on first, I honestly don't know if I'd have put up with him long enough to see through the oblivious exterior to the sweet and truly considerate interior. Or for him to have gotten comfortable enough with me to stop being a total clod.

But he was truly brilliant - just an Aspie with typical Aspie social skills.

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She describes how "introverted" and "shy" and "boring/poor social skills" don't mix well with women. Somehow she decided to clump into the "engineer" category. Ok... Not sure what to say to that.

I think it depends on the country also. Engineers are respected but I don't see women get all excited and flirty all the sudden from mentioning of one guy at the party who is one.
It happens more often with doctors, lawyers and finance.

You're on WP, that's different.

Not all engineers are on WP.

Weird America.

So does this mean that the stereotypical male engineering student -drunk, stoned, disorderly, womanizing, woman hatin', slob boy, graduates & suddenly turns into Mr. Analytical Nerd upon graduation?

They don't feel the same for a man who's profession is an academic scientist like I am, even though it technically deals with the same thing? An engineer may seem cooler to some laypeople because they can be seen to be actually building and making things that have practical use but a in professional circles a research scientist is actually higher up the ladder than an engineer. Scientists deal with developing the actual scientific knowledge that engineers utilise, engineers only deal with the practical applications.

If you are not working as scientist then your academic achievement wouldn't be any plus to your dating value at your age.

In what university is that? I think you are confusing between Engineering and PR faculty.
Engineer students wouldn't even get their degrees with the lifestyle you're describing, they often don't have time to even scratch their heads.

I am, that's why I'm doing a PhD. Whatever I do after I get the degree is just an extension of what I'm doing now.