How to be complex and interesting?

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Ya know so I don't bore my gf to death?

Don't bother, women are spoiled enough as it is.
in doing this you live a lie, for you will have to live it forever, instead of being who you are.
why does woman have the right to be happy and mans only right is to make her happy?
No, it doesn't work that way. even though that seems to be what they want.
they want that confident male. its not about prestige as most women think its about.
for them its about mens ambitions, or more like, theirs.

Be interested; listen - properly, not just waiting for your chance to speak!; be open to new ideas and trying out new things; don't try to be someone you're not. Be the best person you can be.

Ok, this is gonna end with everything being off-topic. You're saying I can't win but how do you explain all the wonderful relationships people have? I don't want to lose my girlfriend due to me being boring. You're not helping.

I think it's more about trying than actually succeeding... at least at first, since the more you try the better you end up getting at it.

... and if that doesn't end up working out after a while, find another girlfriend.

women love men whom have confidence and ambition, regardless if they seem to have none them selves, they expect man to become that for them. don't try and impress them, just be confident in what you do. men come to them for acceptance, women pick and choose, employer v the unemployed, they have too many options, to many men to pick from. all you can do is be who you are and hope to be accepted. with so many options most woman does not see what they do have, only what they don't.

Ion addition to being and showing you're interested I her, let her be interested in you. Share things with her. And make plans or let her make plans together. Also showing you enjoy her.

You could try taking up some very interesting hobbies or doing things to make your life interesting but if you don't/cant keep up with it you'll be back where you are now. I personally think it's better to be myself with my partner because if I cant be myself with her, Who can I be myself with & What's the point in even having a partner then? I'm pretty boring in a way but so is my partner/girlfriend & we're both pretty interested in each other because of how we treat each other; like loyal, caring, affectionate, loving, supportive.

It's all in what you do. Interesting jobs, hobbies, experiences, things like that.

It has to be genuine though, it'll come off if your faking it.

And you have to remember, what is interesting to person A might bore the f**k out of person B. Don't get discouraged if your new interesting hobby isn't well received right away.

And don't be complicated.

Listen to the older ones above, even if they sound albeit bitter, use your own judgement to filter the good advice.

Women are not video games. Coming up with a particular set of keystrokes will not unlock the trophy.

Nick had the best advice here. Be yourself. Talk about what interests you, but don't forget to also ask thoughtful questions about the things that interest her. There is nothing more interesting to a woman than a man who listens TO HER.

If you have to "fake it" to keep her interest, she is not the right person for you, in any case.