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Young guy, 21 years old or so, nice looking, well groomed, nicely dressed. He walks up about 3 feet from a nice looking young woman. If she notices him, he gives a quick smile and turns away. Then he pulls a few pink, white,and green balloons from a pocket, and unclasps the airpump hanging on his bet. He spends the next 2 or 3 minutes making a bouquet of balloon flowers. He says "excuse me," Smiles at the girl,and tells her "These are for you."

Speaking on behalf of a young man, good plan? Bad plan? After giving the "flowers,"what next?

I think it's very cute, assuming it's genuine and not just for show.

I think the guy's a real Sweet Pea.

Brilliant plan!

I'd be tempted to take it even further. Make a balloon dog, attached a string to it's neck for as a leash, place it on the floor, and then hand the end of the string to the girl and ask "would you mind looking after him for a few minutes while I nip into that store?". If she's still there when you get back from the store 5 minutes later, you'll know she's not freaked out by you and would be open to chatting and getting to know you a bit more.

As for follow up, it's hard to say.. that's got to be down to to the individual and can't be scripted. Maybe invite her for a coffee there and then if there's somewhere nearby. Just keep it fun, unthreatening, and don't worry about appearing nervous or tongue tied.

If you really "freeze up", just explain that you're quite shy, particularly around attractive girls. In my experience, most women quite like the self-effacing confidence of a man who's happy to admit being shy, rather than put on a mask of false bravado.

edit: one more thing.. All the better if the girl is with her friend. She'll be far more relaxed and open to getting to know you better if she's not on her own.

oh and if you do get to the coffee phase, tell her you only have 1/2 an hour and then you'll have to leave. This will reassure her that she won't end up stuck in an awkward situation with you, whilst also providing the perfect opportunity to tell her you'd like to see her again, and hopefully arrange a time and place to meet up. I wouldn't even ask for her number to be honest, as again, it leaves her an easy escape.

I have only been approached cold once in my life, when I was 18 and alone and at a loss what to do with my time so hung around this busy square in London for hours reading a book. This really cute guy started talking to me and we chatted for ages and then he offered me to stay at his place (I didn't have anywhere to sleep that evening) and promised he wasn't a creep, just trying to help. I really wanted to take his offer but I was too young and scared so I didn't. He was so cute though!

Don't think anyone has asked for my number, ever.

If they know each other, sure.

If they aren't all that familiar with each other, or not at all. I PERSONALLY would think that was a bit awkward.

Maybe give us the story a bit more detail? If he turns away, what does she do, keep on walking?

She may assume he works as some kind of clown & won't be interested in him

Good plan. 10/10

What next?

The guy walks away. If she says thank you then she's worth it and the conversation is off to a good start. If she says nothing then she wasn't worth the effort and he's wasted some balloons, I hope he has some more in his pocket.

It depends.
Does she know of him? If she didn't, it would seem a bit stalkerish.

Where and when does he intend to do this? At school?
I would hate it if I had to carry the balloons for the rest of the day.

If he's doing this to a complete stranger, he's a weirdo who carries balloons and an airpump with him all the time just in case he sees a cute girl.

You should have asked her.

Why do you care?

lol at the clueless replies here.

Creep radar alert.

Would scare the beejezus out of me.

What exactly is creepy about this thread, or us? This is supposed to be a supportive forum. Calling people creeps without justifying yourself isn't nice.

I'm guessing it's because the topic could sound like it's discussing a PUA type technique, to be used repeatedly on lots of girls, in which case I'd agree that it would be a bit creepy, but I'm interpreting the thread as exploring a hypothetical one off situation.

The thing is, this is exactly the kind of thing I would do.. not as a pick-up technique, but simply for the pleasure of making the girl smile. (hence the balloon dog rather than flowers) To be fair I'd only do it if a) she'd noticed me first and made eye contact and b) she looked confident, and c) she was with a friend to share the moment with and feel secure. edit: oh and d) there was a shop nearby to buy the balloon and string from.. as i don't normally carry those things around with me!

Really it's got to be down to the individual..and what suits their personality, and indeed appearance, so what works for me wouldn't necessarily work for someone else. In my case, if she started flirting back, I'd most likely miss the signs and assume she was just being friendly and mirroring my own friendly approach. That's partly why I've been so long without a relationship myself.. Most women end up liking me even if they don't fancy me, and I've never been great at spotting the subtle differences between the two.