Would you still make her a part of your life.

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Would you still make her a part of your life.

Why I asked this question is because an NT friend of mine missed an opportunity with an attractive lady that I would not dream of missing.

I have come to the conclusion that NTs and Aspie males when they have the same difficulty finding someone, the NT would still be more picky superficial . I guess that aspie in their genes know that they are going to have a hard time finding someone while NTs that are at the bottom of the pecking order do not realise what they need to do.

I don't want to sound politically correct any of that but when a woman has the personality that I desire she always would seem more attractive then any supermodel.

I have more to say on the subject but no time.

I would probably just be friends with her if I were in that situation.

Tim

It would depend on whether or not the girl liked me. If she did, then I'd probably make her my girlfriend. It's not like I have many chances. If she didn't like me, then I'm not sure.

There are some incredibly attractive women who as soon as they start talking, quickly become less attractive.
Others, which originally you were not attracted to, but as you get to know them, they become more attractive ( a rare breed).

I read your other post about your geek friend and the black woman.
Personally, i am not attracted to black women either ( indian and oriental but not african - don't find naomi campbell the least bit attractive.)
But if i got talking and had some rapport, there would be no way i would miss the opportunity. What does it matter about first impressions and 'superficial attraction' ?
If you enjoy the others company, then this is all that matters.

I had a chance of getting a girlfriend online once, but I told her I was a fat weirdo on social security who just wanted to get her into bed.

I'm pretty damned superficial I guess. I just can't imagine having sex with someone that I didn't find physically appealing. I can't imagine having a relationship with anyone that I didn't find emotionally and intellectually appealing. So, I might be friends with her (maybe very good friends), but I don't think I could attach fully to her.

I have never been in that situation and if I did, I wonder whether she would be able to cure my tooth ach of the sole called loneliness.

I would turn them down because I would doubt that they would be nice to me.

There's nothing wrong with that. Aspects other than simply appearance definitely have a huge bearing on attraction for me. Sure, initially all you have to go on is appearance. I'd be lying if I said that had no impact. Even with that being the case, a woman that started off looking beautiful has rapidly appeared less and less so once I had developed some impression of her personality, as well as the reverse.

It's not all that you have initially. There are a lot of other factors which can be discerned, just by watching people. 'Course, spending a lot of time watching often makes me lose my oportunity, but hell, I'd screw it up anyway.

I meant more initial judgment, more first thought once you see them for the first time. For the examples I gave, all I did was "watch" them really. Definitely didn't talk to them any. For one, that was a good thing. For another, that wound up as a good thing because I would have been wasting my time anyways.

Chav would you be attracted to her physically though? What I'm asking is (and you dont have to answer it) whether it would be a loving and physical relationship, or a platonic but loving one.

I'm talking about watching. I would never approach someone (I think - maybe I would under odd circumstances), but even in the first few seconds, I feel like I have a pretty good idea about aspects, without talking, without knowing anything else about them. The way that they stand and move, for example. Then again, I believe myself very capable of 'reading' people. Definitely better than most NT in this sense.