Believe it or not, I'm now happy being single!

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I want to be with a woman someday. Even though I can be very choosy with the opposite sex, I just don't want to make the same mistakes I made with my last two ex-girlfriends. I just want to meet a woman who loves and/or respects my love for the WWE, NFL, hard rock/heavy metal, and libraries. Anyways, I'm finally truly happy being single for the first time in a LONG time! I hope you guys and gals have a great Easter.

so,you have a fwb or something like that.
Happy singles are never really single.

i've been single for going on 10 years now and i'm happy--not all the time, mind you (who's happy all the time?), but overall i like my life, i am content with what i have and who i am. it is possible.

Same here but occasionally i do get lonely and sad and want comforting or someone to comfort. Its nice being single though because your not obligated to spend time with someone 24/7 or be with someone who treats you like dirt or plays mind games with you etc plus your saving money more single. I still get occasional fwbs and casual encounters and i realise when i need someone to talk to i got here or my small circle of friends that i actually trust and tbh its not easy gaining my trust, i trust strangers like a wild animal trusts humans. Im somewhat of a loner and that's totally fine for I am independant and nobodys property.

I was also happy being single when I broke up with my ex. I felt I had a huge weight off me and I felt normal again and I no longer was zoned out at work and I could finally hear the words again and remember where I am instead of wondering what am I doing at Wal Mart and when did I get here and then to remember I stopped there for cat food and I just got off work. Yeah that was what was happening to me in my first relationship. My mental health declining because of him and then when he was gone, all that was gone. But I also remember missing him and my mom said I just miss being in a relationship and it's pretty normal and I don't miss him, it's the part of having a relationship and not being alone I miss. I bet if I told him then how he was making me that way, I doubt it would have changed anything. I honestly didn't know then either and didn't know what was going on until afterwards when my mom told me and she said that was all depression and loud bass will do that too to my hears so that is why I am having problems with hearing at work (my ex always had these huge speakers connected to his computer and he had it on so loud and the bass while playing his game) and I just didn't realize until after he was gone.


In my last relationship, I remember being happy and free when I found out I was single. That took stress off me of my ex not ever answering his phone and all and I didn't have to worry about breaking up with him if he had moved on and I could move on too and I was glad. He also put stress on me too but not in the same way as the other one did. Now I am doing better in my current relationship because I have a great guy and I didn't decline again. In fact I got better instead of worse. I was just with the wrong men who didn't understand or even care and then would get upset with my anxiety and think it was an excuse and that I do it on purpose to get my way. I even had to see a therapist to undo the damage the last one did.

whenever I wish I was in a relationship, I go back and re-read my writings from when I was IN a relationship

I have to remind myself about my misgivings about my ex(s)

Better to be alone than to be lonely while IN a relationship if you understand what I mean

I love being able to do simple things like eat when and what I want. I don't have to 'cater' to anybody

Nobody (going back to my parents) has ever catered to me that way I tried to do for others. Lots of "takers" but no 'givers"