25 Things NOT To Do On Your First Date

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It's an interesting list and I agree with all of them except #17, don't take your kids with you. Years ago I had a first date at a funfair and she brought her kids with her, aged about 3 and 5. We had a great time so this can work PROVIDING you're warned about it first.

Some other things to add:

Don't run out of cash, because spending part of your date in a queue for the ATM is not OK.

Don't forget her name

Don't keep looking at your watch or the train timetable

Don't forget to turn off your mobile phone

Don't forget to clean your car, inside and out.

If I were to be single again, and dating, rule #1 would be Cell Phone off ! !!

in my country we don't have this date thing, my sister is in the US and she said in there guys radomly approach you to ask your cellphone so that they can call you to have dinner together. This where I lived is considered utmost weird! you don't simply go out with someone you don't know like that!
In everyday life people get to know each other more by talking. In parties is when the intimate approach happens; usually the guy comes talk to the girl but before the girl may have looked at him "calling him" or dancing to him; or they already knew each other. Then they don't talk long but kiss. In a party or night club people usually kiss many others in a night.
If they stay with the same person all night then maybe they may see each other again; this second approach is usually by facebook, they add the person and talk if they are interested. Then in other parties when both go they kiss each other again. If they start kissing each other frequently than the person is the other's "stayer". After being a stayer for some time, they may do something together, ie. go on a date. After some months (4 or so) of "staying" they may settle down as valentines. If they are to get married years later it is not an unilateral decision of the man to ask a woman to marry him while the woman waits as in american tradition (another weird stuff!), usually it is a more like a couple decision to get married.
I like cultural comparison, for me it is interesting, hope you girls and guys don't mind.

^^^^^^That is very interesting, linatet. I remember an article in a UK magazine about the oddness of US dating - the 'accepted' tradition in the UK was, as the writer put it, to go to a party (through friends of friends), see someone there you like, see if they like you, probably go to bed with them, wake up and spend time together, and decide sometime over the next few weeks and months if you want to be in a/the relationship. Which is nothing I've ever done as I could never abide parties, but it does sound like an accurate description of people I've known.


As to the list, I'd add:

Don't say, 'you're late', as your first greeting. Even if they are. They will give you a funny look and say how the train was a little late, and half way through the film you are watching together, you will realise what you said and want to sink into the seat and disappear.

Don't arrange to meet them at a different train station to the one you anxiously wait for them at. That's a very stupid thing to do.

When you are listening to Radiohead's 'Fake Plastic Trees' together, don't say, 'oh, is that a cello?' when the cello comes in. You may be excited to distinctly hear it for the first time, but they probably aren't. Their response of 'I don't know' doesn't just convey that they can't hear it, but that they are confused as to why you would say such a thing in the midst of jointly listening to a beautiful piece of music.

I find it concerning that people old enough and capable of dating would need to be told not to flirt with someone other than their date or pick their nose when meeting someone new.

Here is thing mom told me when I was 17, don't talk about your special interests none stop on your first date.