I need someone who I can feel for

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I've been thinking about this, and dissassembling this to gain a greater resolution of the picture than I had previously had, and one of the realizations I arrived at was, that I need someone who I can feel for, the thing is in this society we've pretty much been told that either has to be someone of the opposite gender or you have to be in the military, I have no problem with it being someone of the opposite gender but I am struck by at least one problem

we'll just sum it up by saying asperger's





then there is the problem that it would take a relativly extraordinary person for me to feel for them, at all, let alone deeply, or even often, this is the tricky bit, because I don't quite know how to communicate what I mean, I'll oversimplify it, but that won't be good enough, I don't feel for people, I want someone who I can feel for, it doesn't have to be love, it can just be a low level hum of expression of just about anything positive, I'm getting closer and closer to being willing to settle for a nemesis, I just want to beable to express emotion in some way that isn't a meltdown and it woul dbe nice if I could share it with someone who is important to me

You could start with introducing yourself through your passions, and by passions I mean the interests in which you are readily absorbed.
Aspie females are very similar to Aspie males – so in theory it should not be too difficult to understand or tolerate eachother.
First of all, decide what sort of person you are interested in- then seek them out.
Regards

Hmm, it is an odd one as I do not think an Aspie with an Aspie can always necessarily work, because while both will find emotional expression hard... I find that many Aspies usually want to have some form of emotional reassurances...so what do you get when you put together two people who have long desired some sort of romantic relationship, two people who cannot express themselves in a romantic way? I found this with my ex, who was aspergers. I think at times, an Aspergers person being with another aspie, can be just as problematic as an Aspie person with an NT. Both require a lot of work and compromise.