Why a lot of you ladies don't give chance to shorter guys?

Post Reply New Topic

;__; I am 163cm/5'3 Why you make it so hard on shorter guys? Why don't you like to date guys who happen to be shorter than you? Why?

Perhaps it's a subconscious association between height and dominance, dominance and _______ (something sexual/romantic).

Something I have definitely noticed with a lot of women is, it doesn't matter if you're short fat and toothless with green skin and a perm, if you can make them laugh and keep them engaged and interested you will get dates.

It seems to be harder for people the further they are from the typical idea of the ideal mate of the people they are trying to attract... but it's not as much of a factor as people think.

I have dreadlocks. Women don't tend to like them, they mistakenly think dreadlocks are dirty or that they make me a hippy, that I do lots of drugs or that I am stupid because of them... so I know how it feels to not generally be women's ideal match, but look at it as a filter if you can! The ones who won't want to be with you because of your height are people you won't want to be with, maybe it's because they're shallow or judgmental, maybe it's just because they aren't attracted to you because of it or something else (so you two are not a good match...) don't focus on why you aren't a good match for them, you're just not! Accept it, it's fine!

I think most men are attracted to larger breasts because it indicates to their subconscious that this woman is able to provide for his possible future children's nutritive needs... it's an instinct left over from when it was relevant to survival. Maybe women's general subconscious liking of tall men is similar and to do with a tall man's mechanical advantage in terms of leverage (which is relevant to all sorts of things including hunting and fighting) or their ability to forage (gathering fruit nuts of berries a shorter man could not reach) or otherwise to do with your ability to protect them and/or your children?

Sorry for the comments in the middle if you were asking this in a more general/philosophical way and not a personal one as it seems to be... I tried to cover both angles.

Maybe cause it often gives the illusion that the woman is stronger/heavier than the guy. There's an old-fashioned belief about height being associated with having more strength(even though shorter people tend to have short-arms/legs which helps with weightlifting, etc).

I had an interest in a guy shorter than me. Not all of us go for guys much taller. *Shrug* I think I did actually two or three times.

Actually height doesn't matter to me at all. I'd happily date a little person if we were a good match.

Have you ever held hands with a guy shorter than you? Have you ever kissed one in public? ;__;

Yeah right, I mean....come on... ;___; You wouldn't even find him he's a good match just because he's shorter than you, he would remind you of your little brother.

You like dancing don't you? You wouldn't even give me a chance. ;___;

I'm not as short as you, but I've always felt a bit of awkwardness towards girls who are taller than me.

There's also women who are about the same height as you, who feel upset with you for being unable to wear high-heels in your presence.

Snooki is 4'6" and her husband is only a couple of inches taller.
Everywhere I look is short women.

That's actually dependent on the lift you're performing, or at least my understanding.
A deadlift is the only one I can think of at the moment where a tall person has a mechanical advantage because of having more leverage over the load... but I'm sure there's more! I'm just nitpicking though and generally speaking you're absolutely right.

But he's still taller than her I guess but in general:

Have you ever personally dated a shorter guy?

Why do you hate us so much? ;___;

I've only "dated" about 3 people. Only one was taller than 6 foot. 2 were a couple of inches taller than me, so to answer your question, no.

I don't "hate" anyone because of their height, but my opinion isn't a reflection on other women. I'm simply not used to short men or skinny men. The only man I had in my life growing up.. really was Dad and he is massive.

If it really is true that the biggest barrier between you and most women being attracted to you is your height, that's a great thing because it means almost everything else about you, or at least almost everything commonly seen as more important is attractive.

I'm not so sure it's about height though... I don't know you at all but most women like confident men, and it sounds like you're having trouble feeling happy and confident with your height? An exercise in self acceptance might do you all the good in the world!

That's easier said than done, and maybe I misjudged you, but it's something worth working on I think.

Also, I think men having a problem with dating a taller woman is much more common than woman having a problem with short men?

No, all studies regarding this subject show that women have more problem in dating a shorter guy than a guy dating a taller woman.

Oh, in that case I stand corrected!

Oh come on (hint: youtube video, doesn't ring a bell?), you're smarter than that and know me well. /note.

Come on hale bopp, you don't believe I would be a good biological dad!! You hate us!! You hate our genes! :__: You wouldn't give me any chance to have your babies.