How to NOT fall in love?

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Honestly, I'm sick of it. Part of me feels like I'm never going to get that special someone, and I have concluded that there is nothing magical about love. What I mean by that is that love isn't that sort of Hallmark Card/Romance movice BS you see all around you slapping you in the face.

When you consume chocolate, your brain releases a chemical that makes you feel happy and calm inside. When you "fall in love," your brain releases the same damn chemical.

Love is nothing more then a bunch of chemical reactions in your brain designed to get you to want to have intercourse with someone.

So, that being said, anyone know of any techniques to insure I don't feel this nightmare again?

I've given up, in that department. It just ain't worth it.

Eat a lot of chocolate. That way, your brain won't be able to tell the difference, so that when you get that "feel good" chemical, your brain will think it's just more chocolate.

Become bitter and cynical like me!







On second thought, that wouldn't be very fun. <sigh>

If it were a choice, it would be easy to avoid. You could just make the choice not to.

Unfortunately that's not how it is. You could avoid getting to know people, but that'll have a worse outcome. There's no real avoiding it. Hell, even limiting your interactions to the minimum and talking with people online can end in the same result.

I don't think there is a way to avoid it.

See an escort at least once every few months. Since the "in love" chemical is a way for your brain to make you want to have sex, it'll keep building up until you find a good release. (Masturbation isn't effective for that in the long term.) So eat chocolate to get that feel-good chemical, and if the urge to have sexual intercourse gets too strong, call an escort agency and have fun.

I'd rather end up single and alone, than be trained to fit into a mould of what a proper lady should be like. There's an edge to my personality and I live in a different time. I'd also rather stay true to the Routemaster than be tied down by a romantic relationship.

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I used to be a total romantic inside... in my teens and as a young girl, when I had no experience of males other than abuse as a child. I would watch knights in shining armour movies, and in my head, it would happen to me too, but then the reality hit hard when I ended up with my ex...who although aspie, was very different to me. Although I consider myself logical, he was total logic and had totally buried all emotions. My romantic dreams all ended there, lol and I have not really found them since. They are partly there, but totally overwhelmed by my bitter and angry cynicism now that reality simply does not happen as I would wish. The man I believe to be the one for me does not even give me a word (another aspie ) and so I am pretty much set now on filling that gap with knowledge and forgetting about love and soulmates. I mean, it is not like I am any good at intimacy beyond the confines of my imagination anyway. Why wish for something that your issues will never allow you to have??

[quote="Guardeleon"]Honestly, I'm sick of it. Part of me feels like I'm never going to get that special someone, and I have concluded that there is nothing magical about love.quote]

Same here I'm starting 2 think that aspies never get the "special some1 we always dreamed of" Or maybe it was meant 4 NT's only...............

ok,it's a pity that the topic has come to this depressing,but I have to agree with most people here : we are in deep s@@t. I am 22,male and at 17 I paid to,you know ,find out those things I knew werent going to happen soon...just before I started thinking about me been aspergers,I made the decision of living the best I could and doing the best with what I had (which is good enough for many,many great things in life),and stop breaking my head and other organs about the women-things. still,life does test you once in a while but I think this is easier to deal with after that little resolution...

what if you tried to live your way a little more? it's yours,after all.really,really yours.

Love may result in a "chemical reaction" but I think it truely results from the 'thought' which is not 'physical.'

Apparently, once one stops caring about the opposite sex, thats when the sparks fly and suddenly they come flocking in hordes.

I have yet to experience this effect....

But I understand where you're coming from. I MOSTLY stopped caring about a year or two ago, but still theres always that glimmer of hope when I meet someone who has potential. Then...wait, oh yes. The sound of broken glass hits the floor and its back to square one.

Good luck.