Anybody ever had sex as a special interest?

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I'm talking about learning how to please others, not porn or self pleasure (not that there's anything wrong with that).

If so, how did you go about learning?
Did you ever get really good?

*Sighs while crossing the room...*

*Picks up a pipe, and brings it back over....*

*Sits down and stares at Wozeree for a few seconds.*

*Sighs again... Lights the pipe.. Eyebrows furrow, strokes beard*

*Fidgets in chair for a bit*

"When a mommy Squid, and a daddy Squid love each other VERY much..."


Joking aside, The Squid feels that creativity in the bedroom is very important. We feel that everyone has "Turn ons" and "Turn offs". It is best that you approach your partner with ideas that you've seen, or would like to try. Many times you'll find that they are open to new things. It keeps things exciting, you get to have fun, and so does your partner. Another key thing to remember, is it's not always about you. Try a back and forth. If you can get your special someone to try something for you tonight, why not indulge them next time? Keep an open mind!

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i went to med school.

You're just a bundle of laughs tonight, aren't ya?
I'm not asking how to have sex though. The question is specifically about having sex (as in how to please somebody else) as a special interest (alas, it is for a character I am writing, not to spice up my sex life). I'm not so much asking for sexual details as for what it's like to have it as a special interest, how you learned (like from a book or practicing on someone) and if having it as a special interest actually does anything for making you good at it (becasue seeing as we are aspies and some of us have intimacy and social cue problems, I could see how having it as a special interest could backfire)!

Hrrm. That is a different topic all together. Our sexual preferences and practices are generally only found in Asian countries.. And the Mariana trench.. Oh, we've had some good times down there. We guess in that case, we don't find sex to be a special interest. We aren't particularly in a position were we can practice it all the time. (Especially after Mrs. Squid left.)

Hahahahahaha!

I Don't under stand the Special interest ideal of aspies o.O

I like and really crave to pleasure a woman, Its to me the only point of sex. I haven't learned much about it though . I would rather learn with my love if I ever have one. learn thru trial and error what she likes and loves.

Not exactly a special interest.

But I have been complimented on my.. talents.

How did I get good? Practice makes perfect. Imagination, creativity, experience vs. book reading or watching porn.

The only detrimental thing I caught myself doing was getting in the habit of performing certain routines. Routines can be great for other things in life, but routine sex? No thanks. It gets a little boring if you find yourself simply going through the motions of a routine - even if it's all good for your partner.

I thought that sex was the only socially acceptable special interest amongst NT's.

The term "special interest" is so patronising.

That's pretty much how I am, and the trap I fall into.

Learn a bit of anatomy and one can do quite a lot, but in an effort to be the best possible every time, I find that one may fall into the routine trap because there are certain tricks that work better than others.




I personally don't have anything more than fleeting obsessions that last for a week or two each, but sex has been one of the recurring ones, if that counts.

I learned what I know from a combination of medical websites and cheesy magazine websites. With the cheesy magazine sites, you read through the articles and try out everything that seems to pop up the most often at least once, see what it does and how well it works. Make sure your partner is up for at least light experimentation, and only do it during "Fun" sex - not during "Serious" sex, or you might risk damaging your relationship by hurting them. Take it slowly, make sure they're comfortable with everything you're doing.

If you want to be really, really good in bed, you have to do it for their benefit, not your own... and don't forget to keep doing kegels.

I used to and read loads of books and was very into tantra, I even considered doing sex therapy as a career (Im a psychology graduate) but then the obsession left me, not interested in it at all now.

^and/or yoga!--yoga is great for those muscle groups, too (as well as overall flexibility).

Well who doesn't love sex! (Apart from maybe having issues with intimacy or the connection)

I focus almost entirely on the woman during sex and have gotten good at pleasing them through lots of practice with my long time ex-girlfriend. I have also done some research
From what I have been told, a lot of guys do not perform oral on girls. That or just aren't very good. So I have perfected this a lot! I am told my tongue is magic hehe

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Why do you say that? Too much pc around already!

Yeah, you can get a lot more of an effect with your tongue and hands than anything else.
I personally always try to finish on that. Nothing beats seeing your partner rendered immobile like that ;D