I don't know how to find a date.

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This is a big topic for me love and dating. I haven't had a real date with anyone in 3 years. I am almost 40 and don't really know what to do or say to ask someone out. Most people my age are married and the ones that are single have kids and I do not. I have no idea how to relate. I find myself tending to talk to much younger people like 15 years younger than me. I am in the same place in life they are, still living at home, no kids, and never been married. Some people may find that creepy, but the age group of people in their late teens and early 20s tend to fit me more than anyone else. Most people I have met closer to my age have had some kind of mental problem and I have actually had to threaten one with a restraining order because she wouldn't leave me alone. Please help someone. I don't wanna be 50 someday with nobody.

Obviously, you wouldn't be here asking unless the usual suggestions ("try online dating, join clubs, go to church") aren't workable. If you live in a small town and/or aren't very mobile, finding someone is that much harder. One question: Other than dating, are you satisfied with your life as it is? If you want a better job, or to move into your own place, or get a better education, I would focus your energy on that. A woman won't make you more satisfied with who you are.

Post some online personal ads here and there and see who emails you. Maybe make your goal to get A date, any date, and then re-adjust your sights from there. i.e. don't be so picky.. just get yourself a date for the sake of getting yourself a date, go out, meet someone, enjoy some conversation, dinner, some activity or another etc and then you'll realize afterwards that it wasn't THAT difficult after all and that if you can get just that ONE that you can get another, and perhaps better, one after that. Just get yourself A date just to break your current dry spell and smash your own paradigms that tell you that you can't get a date. Prove to yourself that you can and then you'll realize that there are a lot of things you can do that you might not currently think you can - including getting another date and finding someone actually compatible with you. Baby steps though.. post some ads and get yourself A date first, any date, and go on it.

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I am still a little new to the site. Is there a place to put an ad somewhere?

I meant post a personal ad on a personals classifieds website somewhere. Or a profile on a dating site(s). Or both/on several sites.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

Oh ok I have done that. I am on several dating sites like POF.