Bad Romantic/Friendship Issues

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I hung out with a guy I really liked for about 3 years and he seemed like an Aspie (I don't know for sure) and we had a back and forth chemistry type of friendship but never dated. After a while, things got a little weird and signals got all mixed up and we didn't hang out anymore. Some of the things that confused me were things that seemed almost like he liked me but wasn't direct about it.

For example, in chemistry class when I was 16, we were doing experiments and he said "I want to do something bad with those big jugs over there." I couldn't really tell if he was making a joke about my chest size or if he was commenting on actual jugs in the room that I couldn't see so I just pointed to some bottles of hydrochloric acid and I was like "You mean those?"

Another time, we were playing Pandemic on the computer together and kind of flirting and he started naming all of the diseases he made after me. I didn't really understand if that was supposed to mean something or not. Other people always thought we were an item but we weren't. He also sat right next to me one time and pretended like he was going to send me a racy poem copy/pasted from online a bunch of times into the same email but maybe he was just being immature.

He also showed concern when I started skipping classes and school events as I lost my ability to function there, and teachers and the counselor began to notice and implied that he liked me or that we should date.

Slowly, after a whole year that we were kind of at an awkward stage and didn't talk much, I got the courage to try and wait for him at the library where he hangs out. We just ended up sitting across from each other on our tablet computers and not saying a word. Another time, I briefly talked to him in the library about Doctor Who and X-Files, things that he seemed only vaguely interested in. He was like "Oh, you're a Doctor Who person," and "Oh, that one's old." We also talked about college a little but he seemed a little distant.

Yesterday, my therapist told me to email him and I sent him an email about one of my new special interests that I thought he might like, but he has not responded. What do you guys think?

He's either having a rough period of time and needs some space, or he's losing interest.
I'd wait it out a while. Keep trying to be his friend at the very least.