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Hi! I have been with my Aspie boyfriend for the last four months and I think we have been doing a pretty good job with communication, but we are now dealing with a whole new problem. During school days, we were seeing each other once a week and it was alright. He had his alone time. Now, he is on vacation while I have a full-time job. Yesterday, while we were cuddling in his bedroom, he told me he wanted to be alone AND with me at the same time. I ended up leaving, but there was some drama. It happened before, but it was clear that he wanted to be alone so it was easier. I take care of him a lot and, this particular morning, all I wanted was to be cared for. I have borderline personality disorder and this was just a bit too much of ''rejection''. We discussed it later and he is coming to see me this afternoon, but I was really hurt and I don't understand, neither does he I think. Have you experienced something similar ? What would you suggest ?

Well... I was in a similar situation about 8 months ago. After it happened once, it happened many more times. Eventually I couldn't cope with it anymore and put an end to our dating. It drove me mad and had me feeling rejected and uncared for. With you it only happened one time though...
I can imagine BPS and an ASS being a very difficult combination at times.

So... no real advice here. Good luck! I hope you communicate your way out of this