why can't I get Good GF

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seriously,Im tired of this sh-t.I get a New gf,and
like my 3rd GF before(who Im still somewhat with)she
ends up being a Lousy GF.So she now a quasi-GF
like my 3rd one is.f--k.f--k.She's a nice ladies,
but she doesn't act like a GF,she acts like a friend.
She's respectful.but f--k,she needs to do better.
Why can't I find a GF,that's actual good,and
knows what's she doing.AHHHHHH.

Just be patient.

What do you think a girlfriend should act like?

Sigh.

Hm, based on some of your previous posts...


Could it be because of this?: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp6116512.html#6116512
Or this?: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp5417551.html#5417551
Actually, this is probably the reason right here: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp6061171.html#6061171


I'm not trying to be harsh, but from your posting history it sounds like you are quite disrespectful towards many women, and I think that that attitude needs to change if you want to find someone worth keeping. You say that your current GF "needs to do better", what exactly do you mean by that?

1-respectful,doesn't get mad at me
2-Always wants to talk to me
3-knows hows to be romantic

my 4th Girlfriend is way more respectful than my 3rd GF .
but she not a Good GF,she's a good person,I do love
her and I do love my 3rd GF. But she(the 4th)needs
to do better.I do good on my behalf.Don't blame
me,this is all her. Just because my lady is a Lousy GF,
doesn't mean I hate her.

You're having some false starts, but it's not the end of the world. The fact they remain friends with you is worth noting as a positive sign. I wouldn't count on having a woman change into what you want. In some ways, your a tough customer and set in your ways, so you probably are best to keep looking until you find a natural match.

1. What are you doing to make people get mad at you? Women are human with feelings just like you.
Also, I assume you never get mad at your girlfriend, because double standards suck.

2. Sometimes people just need time alone. Deal with it.
Are there times when you just don't feel like talking? Why shouldn't your girlfriend be the same?

3. What exactly do you mean by "be romantic"? Different people have different idea of what romance is like, and she might think she is being romantic. Have you talked to her about this? In relationships you need to communicate and compromise.


I'm not saying that everything that goes wrong in a relationship is all your fault, but statements like "This is all her"...
Unless someone is being abusive or otherwise a complete jerk, the problems in a relationship are almost never the fault of one person. I can pretty much guarantee that you are not the perfect romantic partner, because there is no such thing. Everyone gets stuff wrong.

Hmm. I just turned 25, never had a gf, probably never will. Sounds like you at least have someone.


I just don't get the time of day. I'm not ugly, or disrespectful. Just a bit shy and inexperienced. Seems like women would rather talk to anybody else, or crawl in a hole and die, than entertain me.

I've been trying for ages now and the only "advice" I ever get is to try harder. So tempted to quit and start looking into escorts. They can pretend to be your gf for an hour and I'm so socially ret*d I probably won't be able to tell its fake. It would be the first time in my life anyone's even pretended to care, anyway.

- she shares her cigarettes instead of smoking them all herself

- you wake up to find heart-shaped motorcycle skidmarks on the driveway

- she shaves her hair off, knits it into a scarf, and presents it as a special gift

Sexaayyyy, would turn gay for a girl like that.

Is that a frustated sigh, or wistful longing one? If it's the later, I'm sure billiscool is willing to put you in queue on a list somewhere. Get in line missy!

Sigh.

No homo.

The reason you can't find a girlfriend who doesn't get mad at you is because it is pretty much impossible to be with someone without ever once getting mad at them. The important thing is how the couple handles their differences. But "doesn't get mad at me" is an impossible standard that not even a saint could reach. You might as well look for a girl who doesn't age. Or who has wings and magical powers.

You could make a chart comparing what you do and what she does for the relationship. Maybe get her on board and see if she has any input on the matter. At least the two of you will be closer to the same page, even if it doesn't work out, it's good practice.

1. My girlfriend gets mad at me every once in a while. It's usually over something I say or do that makes her uncomfortable or upset. It's impossible to not get her mad every here and there. If you end up showing you don't care about the issue she is upset with you about, it's more likely that she would dump me and eventually be with someone else.

2. We don't always want to talk to eachother. There are other things that are pressing matters that need to be dealt with, and there are other friends we want to see.

3. She knows how to be romantic at the right times.

I'm not sure why you expect people to never be mad at you. You may have to adjust your expectations there.