Bad at kissing

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I'm an autistic in my late 20's and I'm bad at kissing. I used to have all kinds of weird issues with touching others and being touched, most of which I've gotten over as I've grown and dated more and so on, but this is one thing I can't get past. I don't understand what I'm doing, I'm always a little slobbery, it's always a little odd. A lot of things come naturally to me, but this doesn't. Anyone in the same boat? Any advice on how to improve?

http://www.wikihow.com/Improve-Your-Kissing

Also, one person's turn on is another person's turn off. There are people who like slobbery kisses. I am not one of them. You could ask whoever you're kissing to show you how they like to be kissed.

i don't particularly like slobbery kisses. my husband can't seem to help giving them. he's so great in other ways, i overlook it.

As with most things, what is good and what is bad is a matter of personal preference. Find out how the person you're with likes to be kissed and go from their. If they demure, remind them that practice makes perfect. Have fun!

Ughhhh...my husband kissed so badly that unless I was really turned on I avoided it. He used too much tongue (shoving it in my mouth) and too much spit. My face would be covered in saliva and my mouth would be full of his drool. Disgusting. And I love kissing!

I asked him to try to improve his kissing method, but he just came up with stupid excuses. Result - less kissing from me.

It's absolutely fantastic that you're aware of your kissing deficits. This is the first step to improving your skills. The advice in the link is good. If you are a slobberer, do not do too much open mouthed kissing. Nips, closed mouth kissing, gentle tongue play, etc are all good - this will help keep your saliva exchange lower. And you have the benefit of being able to practice this effectively with a pillow. If you're leaving a damp spot when you do this - then you're not swallowing often enough.

There are so many tips to find on the internet. There are even some youtubevideos on how to kiss. I don't know if I am allowed to post them, but why don't you take a look?
My ex was a slobbery kisser as well and he would tell me that I was the slobbery one. LOL. If you slobber a lot try not to open your mouth too wide. That's basically the trick.

I found these for you.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJsEHT5djlw
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y4c7uCdW6Ao
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y37eT9U2QRA
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m594xebvGBQ
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fc1ZYfLEMqU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VTw9Oo62sZc
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mpGyu2ZuUh0

The best way to get good at kissing is to practice.

If you suspect you're a bad kisser, the best thing to do while kissing is for you to notice what the other person is doing and copy it / respond to it. (That's assuming the person you are kissing is a "good" kisser. Maybe they're a bad one, too)!

That way, if you copy them, you will make sure you're both going at the same speed / rhythm, and the "good" kisser will be the one leading the kiss.

I am also late twenties and have not learned to properly kiss. It only goes really well with girls who are good at leading the kiss, as suggested here. Sometimes I think my tongue is not flexible enough and I will never get any better.

Mind most girls I have kissed I have paid.. and their kissing is understandably often reluctant\mechanical\passionless.

Thought I was alone. I am my late twenties(absolute end) and have only kissed one girl twice 10 years ago, so I know absolutely nothing. This is a big fear of mine if I ever find someone who has any interes at all in me. We will start kissing, I will be terrible since I have no idea, she will think its too wired for my age and it will all be over. It's absolutely embarrassing and something I hate about myself.

My only advice: Stop being so aggressive when you try to kiss people.

If you're not an aggressive kisser, awesome. You're able to learn. If you are an aggressive kisser, you're basically doomed to fail until you slow down and learn properly. After you know how to do it properly, you can pick the aggression back up.


My ex was very, very, very bad at it. AMAZINGLY bad.

for me, I have not heard any complaints from any women that dated me in the last couple years. The first part is to understand how to give a simple peck on the lips. After that, you can learn on how to focus on clamping your lips down on either their upper or lower lip (gently and passionately). I prefer their lower lip. If you use your tongue, only give a little bit of tongue.

As for too much tongue... never liked it. Anyone who ever tried to give me too much tongue ended up making me gag. They were too offended to kiss me again. I never felt at loss about it anyway.

I've been told that I'm a really good kisser, but also been told that I'm slobbery =|

So...Idunno...maybe it just depends on the girl*?


*replace "girl" with sex/species/item of your choice

Nope, never really had that problem. Well, I suppose I was a bit awkward at first many years ago.. but practice makes perfect and I've since been complimented on my kissing many times.

So.. practice. It's the only real way to get better at anything, really.

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